In today’s live with Randa from the French youtube channel L’audace d’être soi, we talked about loneliness and the measures that can be taken to handle it, not be afraid of it and maybe even appreciate it!
1. How fear of loneliness sometimes prevent us from getting out of a toxic relationship
My grand-mother’s sister was locked down in an asylum at her father’s request with the help of the family doctor. Because she was a woman and a daughter and because it was another time. She was 20 years old.
Yes indeed there are many things which could be improved for harmonious relationships between men and women, but I also would like to take a little bit of gratitude time for having been born during another time, with the progress made.
We talked about manipulation in abusive relationships.
Recently, during a conference, I heard that Friedrich Nietzsche had criticized Saint Paul a lot accusing him of making people feel guilty for the sake of making them obedient.
It made me think about the way toxic people blame us for everything that goes wrong in a relationship.
So let’s drop guilt immediately my friend my sister! Guilt does not make you move forward and it is definitely not the sign of a healthy relationship! I prefer words and values such as responsibility and kindness.
I was asked by a mother member of our beautiful community whether my children were raw vegan like me or not.
Let’s drop the pressure immediately: the reply is no!
My kids have been eating at the school canteen since they are three years old so it was difficult to compete with the canteen food loaded with sugar and gluten (even if before the age of three, they loved green smoothies and raw fruits and veggies such as apples, broccoli and mangoes).
Today they eat gluten, fish and meat at home, but I am not too bad at limiting dairy (they have dairy at school of course).
My best tip is to lead by example. They are very aware that I will never eat bread nor white sugar. They also know that if one day I feel like eating meat, I will. I listen to my body.
They also agree that vegetables and fruits full of vitamins and minerals are crucial to health, even if they don’t consume them as often as I would like. Sometimes I am surprised though. Yesterday for instance, they just ate fresh salad leaves with mayo and French mustard! Better than nothing!
It was a true revolution for my body and well-being to discover free yoga youtube videos five years ago thanks to the channel Yoga With Adriene.
Then something happened. I lost someone I love inasmuch as the man I was in love with decided to leave the country for ever. A similar situation had happened to me many years ago, leaving me feeling like a fly stuck on her back or like a person gasping for oxygen.
So I made a little experiment. Why not? I had nothing to loose anyway, I couldn’t feel any lower.
I hung onto it. I did the same yoga video every day. After five days, I noticed a definite change in my mood. I was still sad but feeling empowered. I discovered I had everything in me to deal with such big emotions.
The secret my friend my sister is to remember that our body and our mind are connected. Then we can make the most of this beautiful union!