I started a daily meditation practice thanks to guided meditations recorded by the French psychiatrist Christophe Andre (“Méditer jour après jour“).
Additionally, I absolutely love Teal Swan’s guided meditation entitled “Spirit Guide Meditation by Teal Swan“.
Nevertheless, I recently discovered what pure meditation was, with only sounds to guide me. In that regard, I appreciate very much the video “STRESS RELIEVING DEEP RELAXATION NATURE SOUNDS MUSIC | 7.83 HZ SCHUMANN RESONANCE, ISOCHRONIC TONE“.
I focus on the sensations from my five senses, on my body, on my heart.
There is no hierarchy between the various types of meditation practices. What matters my friend my sister is to find the right one for you at this very moment.
My seven-year-old son used to wake up at the same time I did, around 430am, to lie on the sofa or read in the presence of his very busy working mother.
I chose not to judge but to try to understand.
A very wise friend told me that it was certainly his way of connecting to me.
Today such a habit went away, naturally.
My daddy from Africa built his house himself, every day after his work day. It took twelve years.
He takes care of his wife with care and respect. He does all the grocery shopping, takes responsibility for the garden, the house, sometimes cooking and laundry, everything…
However today he seems quite isolated in the middle of these people. His now adult sons are patronizing him while his wife makes no secret she would choose her sons over him.
He is an old man now. He spent his life working like crazy to be a respectable husband and father. So many responsibilities and not a lot of time to enjoy life.
Let’s not be fooled. Life is not difficult because we are women. I know several men around me who do their best to be “the good provider” to their wife and family, only to end up alone in their relationship, with so much weight on their shoulders and not a lot of pleasure in their life.
One of my best friends is smoking again after years of interruption. Another one had so many urinary tract infections, before working on herself and her beliefs about sexuality, notably thanks to the books of a French OB-GYN (in French “Femme désirée, femme désirante“).
Personally, I am aware that I damaged my adrenals by working like crazy.
If our body behaves in one way or another, it is a way of trying to ring the alarm bell. The goal is to adjust our lifestyle according to what our body tells us (if you understand French, discover Thierry Casasnovas).
My friend just quit the law firm and is now working on getting her health and joy back.
The important seems to be to take into account our body signals instead of trying to suppress them.
The truth is: I cannot handle it and haven’t been to handle it for thirteen years.
I have always taken care of my babies then children alone, because I have heard a voice saying: “You chose to have kids, now take care of them, it is your problem not mine!“.
I love babies and children so much. I was so happy to have them.
Nevertheless, I feel I am really not the mother I wanted to be, present, full of attention and energy. So what? This is it? This is life? Something is missing, isn’t it? It is just a misunderstanding, isn’t it? I am going to wake up and tell my husband: “Honey I had a terrible nightmare, I was raising children all alone for thirteen years, can you believe it?”
I love you because you are smart and make me feel safe.
I don’t need you to be or do anything. I don’t even need you to love me back.
I am responsible for my happiness. If the situation does not suit me, I am going to leave.
Love is absolute respect for the other person. It is not about taking from but honoring a man and the whole person he is, never taking him for granted, never saying I need you.
Do you know the great writer and relationship counselor Jacques Salomé? I love his work:
When my daughter asks me: “Mum, why are you fasting today?“, I reply: “To have beautiful eyes honey!“.
The actual day of the fast is not the most glamorous because I feel slow and a bit weak. However the next day is magnificent! The white of my eyes is so bright, my face looks like I put foundation on, my skin is extra soft and my energy through the roof.
If you understand French, Thierry Casasnovas made a great video about women and fasting.