Our core human need is connection – advice for single mothers who feel #lonely

Need for connection

As I was traveling alone with the kids in a foreign country (Cabo Verde), I came face to face with a core human need: connection with other humans. Far from my usual environment, I was weak.

Each day, the children and I were going to the same spot on the beach. Indeed, after a few days, we eventually found the perfect safe spot, sheltered from the wind (Cabo Verde beaches are very windy).

One morning, a single mother and her son sat next to our spot. The conversation started naturally between us. She was british and deep in reflexion about the best way to reorganise her professional life. Hence, she wanted to be present for her son, by staying at home more often, while creating a career network for women. We met again the next days.

We are human beings. Our core need is connection. My friend, my sister, I am aware than we may not be able to meet our need for connection right in this very moment. I am writing this post, alone in my flat, raising my two children without any help and single for years now. However, when we desire, above everything else, to see the beauty of the world and of people all around us, we find it. Tonight, my daughter lost her train ticket. An unknown mother bought her one. I sent a text to my daughter which read: “The world is filled with extraordinary people. You are one extraordinary daughter so you naturally attract them to you.”

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