A few years after I escaped from violence and abuse, I stumbled across the amazing work and legacy of Oprah Winfrey. I watched many youtube videos about her work and various speeches. I love her so much. I also listened closely to the message carried by the people she chose to interview. Moreover, there is one word that stands out in Oprah’s generous body of work and this is “no”. Learning how to say “no” to people, even family, is the most important thing to say “yes” to ourselves.