I need to admire the person for whom I work. I was disappointed when one of my bosses proudly told me how he managed to cut a whole waiting line at the airport. Such waiting line was full of people who also woke up at 5 in the morning and had been waiting for one hour, sometimes with children. How could he grant himself the right to place himself in front of them? Nevertheless, I do have the right to judge his behavior. He has his reasons and his own life path. However, I choose not to replicate his behavior as much as I decided not to replicate my mother aggressive manners (my mother whom I love dearly but who has a different set of values than I have). Acting in harmony with one’s values is what allows me to feel good about myself, to feel good with myself. Refusing to judge others even when I do not adhere to their behavior is a first step. If I do not approve the behavior of my former’s boss, it does not mean that I judge him as a bad person. He only has different values, nor inferior nor superior to mine. Now I deliberately choose to surround myself with people who share my values. Then can I feel in integrity and in alignment with my essence.
My friend, my sister, may we be fully aware of our values and act according to them even when we could have all the reasons to give them up. I am also lied to and subject to injustices sometimes. The last time it happened, I chose to hang on to love and kindness. At the end of the day, I did a bit of grocery shopping at the local organic food store. I forgot two bottles of vegan milk I just bought. I had walked over two hundred yards when one of the store’s employee managed to reach me to give me the two bottles. How kind and what a blessing. There is so much kind people in the world. May we have the eyes and the heart to see them around us. May we remain in kindness to attract them into our life, even when the circumstances are tempting us to give up our values.