How to go beyond hate and choose #forgiveness

How to go beyond #hate and choose #forgiveness Claire Samuel

Going to the end of the path which leads to forgiveness is being able to visualize the perpetrator surrounded by all the things he loves, happy and smiling. My friend, my sister, choose love and good, do not engage in hate. You are worth so much more than this. You deserve to be free.

Good #mother or bad mother? Letting go of other people’s judgements

Good #mother or bad mother? Letting go of other people’s judgements - Claire Samuel

I had escaped abuse about a year ago. I was living in a tiny studio flat with my two children. I was working full-time and a single mother. The children were fighting a lot, and I was overstressed, alone and fearful. I was going through horrible legal proceedings. I was exhausted. I felt my whole body was bleeding pain. I sent a SMS to someone who I trusted because I was angry at my daughter for some stupid reason and needed an adult ear to ease the pain. Instead, this person made up her mind about my mothering skills. Since that day, I was the bad mother. Each time I have to talk to this person, she acts as if I was a danger to my own daughter, not taking care of her in the right way. It still affects me after all these years. I trusted this person. I loved her so much. I have never been able to get any appreciation in her eyes. I was a bad child and I am now a bad mother.

The pain is raw. The pain is here. I go back to bulimia and I cannot stop the tears. I love my daughter more than anything else. Why do I even need to say this? How come I feel I have to justify myself again? I have to learn to cut the cords which attach me to this person. She is not living with me. It is my decision to invite her into my mind or to leave her where she is, all judgmental and harsh. I was never enough for her. I have to accept it. And move on.

 

Renegate Beauty – 10 #books to rebuild our life Series – 10

Renegate Beauty - 10 #books to rebuild our life Series - 10 Claire Samuel

First, I love that Renegade Beauty: Reveal and Revive Your Natural Radiance–Beauty Secrets, Solutions, and Preparations is dedicated to Nadine Artemis’ sisters.

Then Renegate Beauty reminds us that comparison is a killer, whether it is comparison with how we should look or comparison with other women. It was utterly fascinating to read the story of how Nadine Artemis discovered essential oils, after a detour in Paris (and its perfumes) and her upbringing close to nature (she was already making potions when she was a little girl).

Renegate Beauty insists on the benefits of the sun for all nature, including human beings. This touches me deeply as I am preparing to move and live south for this specific reason: to be able to be outside more and to feel the golden beloved sun on my skin. As regard to the water element, it was fascinating to learn that our brain and our hearts contain 73% of water. Then, there is a chapter about the Air element before the Earth element. Again, I am moving out of Paris because I need to breathe more oxygen. It is also a beauty decision!

Moreover, Renegate Beauty initiates us to vitalism, which I understand as a true communion between us and nature and the entire cosmos.

Above all, the best beauty secret actually resides in a healthy colon, which contains beneficial bacteria. I feel encouraged to carry on my regular enemas.

Furthermore, I was shocked by the eye-opener chapter about breast health and it should be required reading for every woman.

Why is this book life changing? Because having the confidence not to wear make up is very recent for me. I spent my teenage years to cover my skin with a thick layer of chemical cosmetics, thinking I was ugly without them. Whenever I look at photos of the old me with so much make-up on, the contrast is striking. Indeed, today my face looks cleaner and sharper, in the purity of the absence of make-up.

I highly recommend this beautiful book by Nadine Artemis, which is adorned by stunning photography, full of purity, grace and beauty.

Renegade Beauty: Reveal and Revive Your Natural Radiance--Beauty Secrets, Solutions, and Preparations Claire Samuel

I am sharing my coconut oil cleaning ritual and many more great beauty secrets in the playlist I created for you called “Beauty: natural, pure, minimalist, simple and healthy“.

As mentioned in the video, I stopped wearing underwired bras and feel so much better since. I share this in the video called “Bye bye underwire bras and hello self care or the end of suffering for beauty“.

 

How to handle the pressure as a #single mother: desire, #children and life energy

How to handle the pressure as a #single mother: desire, #children and life energy - Claire Samuel

Sometimes I get so stressed when the children ask me for things, toys, electronic devices or to travel to the States, Dubai and Asia. I have to recenter and remind myself that they cannot understand how much pressure I sometimes have as a single mother providing for three people. At the same time, I am happy they have such grandiose desires because desire is the vehicle which propels us forward in life.

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom – 10 #books to rebuild our life Series – 9

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom - 10 #books to rebuild our life Series - 9 Claire Samuel

I read The Four Agreements one year after having escaped a dangerous and toxic relationship and one year prior going back to college to become a lawyer. This book literally changed my life. The four core life principles are:

  1. May we be impeccable with our word: I teach my children that their mouth shall be clean both ways. As much as we strive to feed ourselves the most nourishing food, we must strive to talk in a respectful way, without bad language, making sure we do not hurt the feelings of others with the words we speak,
  2. May we do not take anything personally: other people criticism and judgement of ourselves has in fact nothing to do with us, we are their mirror so how they behave towards us only means so much as regard to them, their mindset and their values,
  3. May we do not make assumptions: again, judgement is useless because if only we could take a bird’s-eye view, we could see all the missing data on a given situation, we cannot see the full picture so may we keep an open mind and an open heart while walking bravely on the path, even if they are some circumstances which we cannot understand fully right now, and
  4. May we always do our best: may be honestly assess if we have given our all to something, if the answer is yes, we are enough, and we can be proud of ourselves sister.

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book) - Claire Samuel

The Four Agreements Toltec Wisdom Collection: 3-Book Boxed Set - Claire Samuel

How to become bilingual? My amazing 3 tips to become bilingual in the language of your choice

How to become bilingual? My amazing 3 tips to become bilingual in the language of your choice Claire Samuel

1. Start small and honor these baby steps,

2. Learn every day consistently, and

3. Go and live in the country of the language you learn.

 

In Search of Wisdom – 10 #books to rebuild our life Series – 8

In Search of Wisdom - 10 #books to rebuild our life Series - 8

I was eager to read this book by Christophe André, Matthieu Ricard and Alexandre Jollien. I gave my first book written by Christophe Andre to a very special person, as I recall in my book, because I admire this author so much. I especially loved the advice as regard to listening, cultivating gratitude and letting go of ego. However, I do try not to make an enemy of my ego. It is a part of me, as are my shadows.

In Search of Wisdom: A Monk a Philosopher and a Psychiatrist on What Matters Most is a beautiful book which contains pragmatic advice at the end of each chapter. I loved it.

In Search of Wisdom: A Monk, a Philosopher, and a Psychiatrist on What Matters Most