Self love seems to be everywhere in the self help movement. I love how Sherry Argov puts it very simply for us: “If he can’t treat himself well, he’ll never treat you well“. I reviewed her great book here.

It rings so true to me but it is recent knowledge. I was not able to grasp this beforehand. I was desperately attracted to men with addictions. I wanted to help them so much. Thanks to Teal Swan’s teachings, I now understand that I deeply wanted to be good by sacrificing my well being, my dignity and my whole person to a man. Deep down, I needed to appear like a person of good virtue because I thought love was conditional.