Once again, I am deeply convinced that children do the very best they can.
If a child displays a negative behavior, I believe it means that he is not well so I refuse to add to his predicament the loneliness of feeling misunderstood.
I refuse to criticize the teachers of my children in front of them, even when I do not agree with their way of teaching or speaking to kids (by sometimes screaming at them for instance).
To their discharge, they are part of a rigid school system, which slowly evolves (or so I hope).
I listen to the complaints of my son’s teacher, then I comfort my child as to the unconditional love I feel for him. Back home with my child, I inquire about how he sees what happened.
Taking good care of the trust bond between my children and I is of utmost importance. It goes with believing what they say to me before anything else.
I want my children to be aware of the love I have for them.
Misbehavior or not. For ever.
I really enjoyed reading The Emotion Code by Dr. Bradley Nelson and this is why.
1. The reason
Trapped emotions come from unresolved traumas. It happens to nearly all of us.
2. The method
Using muscle testing, the trapped emotion will be identified first.
Then, it will be released using a magnet.
The book The Emotion Code describes such a technique in detail.
3. The way of living to avoid trapped emotions
We choose our emotions, positive or negative.
The three keys to a healthy emotional life are forgiveness, charity and integrity.
A new video will be released soon once I have tested the method on the children and me.
Meanwhile, enjoy the great interview of the author of The Emotion Code by Inspire Nation “DR BRADLEY NELSON: Best Interview on EMOTION CODE Technique, Removing Heart Walls & Muscle Testing“.
Of course it is advised to put the oxygen mask on us before attempting to help others.
However, I wonder how I can truly put myself first as a single mum of two lively children.
Have you got any tips to share with the community my friend my sister?
My 5 productivity secrets on youtube and wordpress are the following:
1. Record one or more video(s) every day
2. Take time to create a nice thumbnail for your youtube video or choose an image to illustrate your blog post
3. Draft a description of the youtube video. I copy and paste such a text to wordpress to create a new blog post
4. Schedule in advance the publication of the video on youtube and of the article on wordpress so you have peace of mind
5. Promote the release of the new youtube video/blog post on Instagram on the very day they become available
In a nutshell: systematize your production and stick to it 🙂
My eight-year-old son was told by his teacher that he was allowed to shout during recess as a way of letting go and having fun.
Nevertheless, one staff member of the school threatened to punish him when he shouted during recess.
Children do not see their teacher as different from member of the staff because they all belong to the school system. Moreover, staff members take care of the children a lot after class. They do not have any training as regard to child psychology. One staff member told my daughter once: “You are one stupid girl” (she is top of her class today).
I have the intuition that our children really need congruence and, as always, it starts by ourselves.
I am the first one who must do my best to stay congruent. As always, it is impossible to pretend or hide when taking care of children.
I must take responsibility for my choices and explain and justify because children need to understand why they are asked something.
More generally, I feel good and I can look myself in the eyes in front of the mirror only if I am congruent between what I say and what I do.
I adore this raw cacao heart from Sacred Chocolate and so do my children.
The best thing about it? It contains the following medicinal mushrooms:
- turkey tail
- lion’s mane
Thank you so much Sacred Chocolate and @davidavocadowolfe.
Slowly but surely, I introduce my children to raw foods. This delicious raw chocolate makes it easier.
In this regard, I am also inspired by @ellenfisher
and her beautiful family. I show the photos of her Instagram account to my children to prove that some kids are raw vegan and happy!
Never going to bed before having made the dishes and tidied the kitchen is a sucess secret.
A detail? No, a lifestyle!
Waking up in the morning (early), ready to create beautiful things as best as possible requires a clear mind and good vibes.
A neat kitchen improves the quality of our energy sister. Try it!
Living a luxury lifestyle but giving birth to a premature baby due to intense stress at the workplace?
According to my humble opinion, it is really not worth it.
I saw too much pain in the eyes of women at the top of their professional career, but isolated from their families by their high-flying work.
I am a big advocate of building a career and I even created a playlist helping women who want to go back to university.
However, it shall never occur at the detriment of our health nor our relationships with those we love.
My life was spinning in such a bad direction before I had a burnout. Thankfully, it became the storm which shook up my life entirely and made me rediscover my children.
I cannot say enough good things about the online store RawLiving.eu. Each time I receive an order from them, I feel the happiest woman on earth.
Raw Living is more than a super foods store, it is a support in my life as a single mother fulfilling her mission to help women recover after trauma, abuse, hardship.
Please read the great book The Empowered Woman if you want to dive deeper into the world of Kate Magic: @katemagic, one of the founder of RawLiving.eu and pay them a nice visit!
Jean-Paul Mugnier is a family therapist. I am deeply thankful for his help.
He has been such a precious support in my life.
He assisted me into finding the right words to talk about abuse with my children.
He is now retired and my grief is immense.
I feel I lost one of the only people I could really talk to.
I comfort myself thinking he would be proud of me, notably for changing my lifestyle and moving to a new home where the children will have their own room.
If you read French he notably wrote La promesse des enfants meurtris: