Abusers are not 100% violent and manipulative. Without a bit of light, we wouldn’t see them at all. This is why it is difficult to leave a toxic relationship. Sometimes the perpetrator seemed kind with me.
Discernment is realizing their light is false. It is a disguise to attach us to them.
Discernment is not judging them but nurturing our light, so we do not become prey to abuse.
My darkness was a very low self-esteem and this is what attracted me to a violent man.
My light today is self-care while living my purpose.