Being stuck in a past trauma is dangerous.
By searching for pity in others, the person relives again and again her past suffering.
It can become very hard to escape such a role.
My friend my sister, you are far more than the pain you experienced. My wish is that your trauma does not define who you are.
We are multifaceted beings, with qualities and shortcomings. We are more than our pain.
May we live life fully by savouring it. You, I and all of us deserve happiness.