My biggest fears were being abandoned, lonely, not belonging. I spent my whole childhood worrying about being left out and rejected by my mother.
A wise way to overcome such a fear of abandonment would have been to look at it in the eyes and process it. However, life made me experienced it directly. I had to bear the heavy responsibility of taking care of two children by myself.
Out of these circumstances emerged a brand-new feeling, like a diamond out of charcoal: I was free. I cherish my freedom so much now. I did not see I was free before, because I was dependent upon others to validate my sheer existence.
May you be free my friend my sister. May you be healthy. May you be happy.