In which world are you living my friend my sister? #loa

In which world are you living my friend my sister? #loa

The past and the pain? Our brain will look for more pain to validate these kind of thoughts, as the great Joe Dispenza eloquently explains.

It is our responsibility to identify what we want (see Laura Zanella in French for more about that) and the exact feeling we want to experience as Danielle Laporte says.

That way, we can choose to bathe our brain in the most delicious and grateful thoughts.

Of healing our relationship with our parents and #bulimia

Of healing our relationship with our parents and #bulimia

It’s been a while since I want to tackle the subject of bulimia, especially after having watched the excellent video by Teal Swan entitled “How to Overcome the Eating Disorder: Bulimia“.

Bulimia is a consequence of gaslighting. Parents of a bulimic person tend to deny her reality.

They say to her that she did not hear what she heard. She did not see what she saw. This created in me for instance a feeling of absolute loneliness and extreme insecurity.

Food was therefore a way to compensate and try to gain some relief, some safety.

What is the link between overcoming bulimia and feeling better about the relationship with my parents? Well, it comes down to looking at reality as it is, even when it hurts.

I used to idealize my parents so much. Taking the time to look at the things that were wrong helped me to move on. Furthermore, I do not have to live with them 24/7.

What remains is gratitude for everything they did for me, respect for that as well, compassion because they did their best and I am not perfect either, and love. Just love.

My friend my sister, bulimia stems from a feeling of not being safe. I find that getting to know myself better, really looking at things as they are, identifying what I really want in life, helped me to overcome the need for bulimia.

We can choose my friend. We can choose the people in our life. The food we put into our mouth. The life we want to live. We do not need to pretend that everything is perfect anymore. You are a beautiful human being who deserves to feel safe.

Blessings to you my friend my sister.