Reality is not perceived the same way by all of us of course.In the 14th century, philosophers even thought than reality was only the idea that I create in my mind about something, but not the thing itself.
Therefore, as Jean Duns Scot explained, there is reality on one side and the thing on the other side.
All of this leads me to romantic relationships. I want to stop feeling hurt by the fact that this man did not see reality the same way I did. I do not even require him to view things the way I do because we are two persons anyway. It frees me. I don’t want to have any expectations in love, although I have standards. Consequently, if we do not see things the same way and cannot live happily within our respective realities together, it is better to part ways.
I am very happy to share thoughts about love with you my friend my sister. However it has not always been the case. I spent years in abusive relationships which lead nowhere. I share my story in the book The Knot in the Spiral so you can avoid the mistakes I made. Lots of love, Claire