I am a single mother. And I love children. I want children since I am 19 years old. When I was pregnant with my first baby, I couldn’t wait to hug her. It was almost painful. I was looking at toddlers playing in the local park with such eagerness. At some point I wanted to be a school teacher when I was a kid. Yes I love children.
However, being a single mum is one of the toughest job I ever had. It is not healthy. Definitely. It is unfair. I agree.
But when I feel like I cannot handle it anymore, my kids wisely remind me that it is my job to accept things as they are. Not accepting them as a way to promote the situation of being a single mother. But accepting as a way to overcome this challenge.
Because you know what? We all have challenges, unfair situations and crazy obstacles to overcome my friend my sister.
Today I choose to avoid fighting with reality, in order to build on it instead. This is part of rebuilding a healthy happy life. More about my journey in the book The Knot in the Spiral.