We meet for the second time with Késoued to talk about a very intimate subject: the fear of being alone. The goal is to prove that it is possible to be alone, like Késoued and me, and even to raise your children alone if you have to. This is her website.
The fear of leaving a relationship
This interview is dedicated to women who write to tell me that they are in a difficult situation or even worse than difficult, but that they cannot leave because they are afraid of being alone.
The fear of being alone
I don’t idealize loneliness and I don’t see it as a goal. However, my intention today with my friend Késoued is to prove to you that you can manage a life as a woman by yourself. In addition, Késoued and I have also been raising our children alone for a very long time.
How do I do it on a pragmatic level?
First you can enroll into hobbies and all kinds of activities my friend my sister. I also think of volunteering which is a great way to meet other people. If you don’t trust yourself, know that trust can be built, slowly but surely. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. Késoued also shared her daily practice of positive affirmations.
There are many charities whose goal is to help women, for example to find a job, to manage legal proceedings or a bank account and to manage their life in general.
The main thing is to keep in mind that things are done step by step: step by step sister! You don’t master everything overnight and that’s okay.
Is finding a partner a priority?
Késoued and I are really on the same page about this. We would love to have a man in our life, but it’s not a priority. If it happens then good, otherwise all is well too. Késoued says: “I am not alone, I am well”. When you go with the flow of life, everything is more fluid. I am aware that you may have family pressure and the weight of other people’s opinion my friend my sister, but know that things change all the time anyway and you have the right to have your own life the way you want to live it. Nobody is in your shoes living your life. Don’t let others dictate how you should live my love.
If, like Késoued and me, you fell in love a few times but it didn’t really work out, these stories are just experiences. They are positive in the sense that they allow us to get to know ourselves better.
Finally, being lonely for a period of time do make us evolve and grow.