It was not an easy road at times. The reason I was able to do it? Support! Support from other women and information from trustful sources such as La Leche League.
Were you breastfed as a baby my friend my sister? Did you breastfeed? What helped you? No judgements nor guilt here. My wish is for women to empower other women by sharing their personal stories. Bless you my friend my sister.
To breastfeed baby for six months at least with breast milk only, without pacifiers, as soon as the first hour after birth: these are the official WHO recommendations.
To which I would like to add my friend my sister that if there is an area where women gain so much by supporting each other, it is breastfeeding. Let’s help each other as mothers, to avoid guilt or feeling lonely when experiencing issues. La Leche League is an international organization which can make a big difference for mothers.
To breastfeed is an art, taught from one woman to another.
My second baby was born 2 months before his due date. I did not expect this, although in hindsight I had a terrible pregnancy because of the abuse.
The first thing I said to him was: “My baby you are so beautiful“. He could not breathe so he was taken away from me at birth and I only got to see him 4 hours afterwards, covered in tubes at the intensive care unit.
I want to say to you my friend my sister that your premature baby can become the radiant child he is born to be. I want to hold your hand and whisper in your ear that all is well, you are a good mummy, your baby will thrive and become a beautiful sun.
Letting go as children grow is an invitation to parent our children with integrity. Our actions matter so much more than our words. Also, our children need to feel that they belong. Then discipline comes naturally. Lastly, Deborah Jackson emphasizes the importance of self-care for mothers. I cannot agree more. I love her books so much my friend, my sister. Letting go as children grow has been on my book shelf for over 10 years and I reread it often, as my children grew.
I also love the book Three in a bed so much. It changed the way I took care of my newborn babies and parented my children.
I choose sincerity. Sometimes I admit to my children that I am annoyed because they can play and I have chores to do. I also truly love working, so I say it to them as well. My point is not to sacrifice my happiness for their sake, as some people are trying me to do. Moreover my happiness is not contradictory to their joy and well-being. Some people value never moving places for the sake of the children for instance. Others think it is best to not get a divorce even when the relationship is failing, for the sake of the children.
I do not want my children to bear the burden of guilt. I am doing the best to provide for them and raise them as best as I can while following my joy.
Getting rid of emotions which no longer serve us, forgiving people who hurt us, making peace with our past, all of the above is required to our well-being and to the happiness of our children as well. Hence, the aim is to avoid projecting onto our children emotions which do not belong to them.
It is the story of the baby who cried in silence. It is the story of the premature baby who had a heart so big that he could feel my sadness, even when my tears fell without making a sound.
Yes, baby sign language classes are worth it! I did baby sign language with my son. We started when he was 6 months old. It was so helpful that I wish I knew about it for my daughter, who is my first baby.
Communication is such an essential part of a healthy life that anything enhancing it is worth it. You can visit Tera Warner’s website as regard to the importance of communication on a broader level.