Rebuilding our life implies identifying our own core values, in an intense and clear manner. Knowing who we are also allows us to become a better mother. Children are a mirror of who we are. May we be strong and trustful in our education principles, even before we give birth. Such self-knowledge can help us to build our life, to rebuild our life and to build the life of our child. A huge thank you to Jean Liedloff for a revolutionary book “The Continuum Concept: In Search Of Happiness Lost“.
Yes you can breastfeed, whether you are using a structured baby carrier, a sling or a wrap (I even have a great tip in this video if you don’t and only use a buggy).
I am lucky enough to have tried most of the baby carriers styles available on the market and I find that nothing compares with a wrap when you have a small baby. I love Didymos and Wrapsody although I tend to prefer the stretch and gauze wraps from Wrapsody as they are easier to manage. Only my Didymos silk/cotton is thinner than the 100% organic cotton one which makes it more comfortable and less bulky.
- With a soft structured baby carrier, you only need to loosen the shoulder straps a bit and baby can feed with the additional bonus of being upright (less digestive issues). Of course you need a nursing top to get rolling without exposing your belly to the cold!
- In a sling, loosen the rings to position baby and use the tail over your shoulder to cover up.
- Lastly, with a wrap, you can easily release the knot and adjust the fabric around your nursing baby easily.
I also used a wrap for my son who was born premature, check out the post “Why #babywearing a #premature baby is good for her“.
Meeting the first child’s needs when caring for a newborn is very challenging. I sometimes felt torn between the needs of my two children, even guilty towards my daughter because the new baby took most of my time. While I sometimes felt on the verge of collapsing, I was happy that nobody was breathing on my neck/telling me what to do. My days were a big roller-coaster of emotions, but I wouldn’t have traded my life for anyone else’s. At last I could feel useful by doing the most important job in the world: raising children, helping them turning into caring, autonomous and responsible human beings. Love to you all and a big hug to fellow hard-working mothers.
Babywearing is one of the best tool for a happy mother and a calm baby. It is something you need to learn but it is not difficult. However, you must take safety into account. Always use your common sense and intuition.
- At first, you need help from others, then safe babywearing requires practice, practice, practice.
- When you tie the wrap, always make sure you are in a quiet place, without anybody who could disturb you or run into you. Also, I loved using a mirror to check that I had tie my wrap properly when I was carrying my baby on my back. Moreover, it helped me to always make sure my baby had enough space between her chin and her chest to breathe properly.
- We must avoid our baby’s chin falling on his body completely, as it can obstruct the respiratory ways.
- Obviously, be extra careful with doors because when you carry your baby, either on your front or on your back, you take more space.
- Lastly, I really recommend you keep your baby high enough on your chest so you can kiss her head. It will ensure you do not hurt your lower back by wearing your baby too low. Also, it is a nice way to check she is comfortable at all times.
PS: please use the contact form for babywearing private lessons if you need some help while I am still in Paris, France.
My second baby was born at seven months old. While I was not able to carry him close to my heart at the hospital like it is done in certain places (kangaroo care), I, nevertheless, immediately used a wrap baby carrier once I was back home. Wraps with a bit of stretch are perfect for a newborn and easy to use. Organic cotton is even better, to avoid exposing our premature baby to toxic chemicals used in fabric dyes. I used the Wrapsody baby carriers with great satisfaction.
My friend, my sister, you can start to learn how to tie a wrap baby carrier with a doll or a teddy bear. Then, it will be such a delight to feel your precious baby close to your heart. The benefits of babywearing for a premature baby are numerous. The premature baby carried in a wrap will be able to better regulate his body temperature, to feel the vocal cords of the person carrying her and, most of all, his/her heart beat.
I want to break the myth of the first baby who takes hours to come to our world, after a difficult and painful long labor, leaving the mother totally exhausted. I am not the only one to have enjoyed an easy labor. I did my best to prepare for a home birth, reading about it and hiring an independent midwife. I had no idea how long my labor would be. What a beautiful surprise to have given birth within a matter of few hours! I started having very intense contractions around 9 pm and my amazing baby daughter was born at one in the morning. I am grateful for both the strong raspberry leaves herbal tea I drank throughout the pregnancy and for the inflatable birthing pool I used. My friend, my sister, it is definitely possible to give birth at home, within hours, without an epidural, without atrocious pain and without episiotomy.
Please find below an extract from my midwife’s notes about the day my baby daughter was born:
- early labor since morning
- irregular contractions
- regular since 8pm
- Claire is walking around at 9:30pm
- at 11pm when midwife arrives: Claire is active and mobile, puttering around in the flat, drinking raspberry leaf tea, squatting during strong contractions which come every 3 minutes
- emotional state is very well
- snacking and drinking plenty of water
- no vomiting
- at 11:30pm contractions every 60 seconds
- at 23:30pm: Claire in the shower, helps with contractions, quietly vocalising through these, sometimes singing and keeping nice and relaxed
- midnight: strong contractions, Claire is moving around the flat coping well, can feel baby moving
- contractions strong and long, membrane still intact
- having sips of apple juice
- 0:30am: pushing during most contractions now, can feel baby moving
- vacalising, labor intense
- 1am: Claire feels like being sick, contractions very powerful, feels afraid, wants to stop, isnt pushing anymore – midwife talks about fear being normal and that Claire is doing it anyway
- Claire is very quiet and poised
- 1:20am: birth! beautiful and quiet greeting, Claire scooped her baby, we haven’t seen yet if it’s a boy or a girl
- 1:25am: baby to breast, cord still pulsing
- 1:30am: out of the pool and in bed, nursing baby, blood loss approximately 200 ml, Claire lying on side
- 2am: still nursing, cord still pulsing
- 236am: birthed placenta
- 2:50am: cord clamped and cut by Claire
- 3am: vaginal exam by midwife: labial grazes, nothing requires stitches
- 3:45am: resting and having a snack
- 4:30am: midwife leaves
Breastfeeding has not been that easy at first. I had trouble positioning my newborn so she could latch on properly. I almost got discouraged during the first days. However, I was very determined to breastfeed, so much that I had started attending the local La Leche League meetings when I was four months pregnant. I loved being surrounded by mothers breastfeeding their babies. This was exactly what I needed: not abstract theory but practical example from other women. After a week of trial and error, I eventually managed to get a good position to feed my newborn daughter, so that she would not take too much air when feeding. When I started going to La Leche League meetings with my own baby this time, things got even easier. Breastfeeding became a natural part of my daily life. Breastfeeding was tremendously helped by learning the skill of babywearing. Hence, carrying my baby against my heart allowed me to feed her discreetly anywhere. If giving birth at home does not mean than breastfeeding will be automatically an easy task, it has secondary benefits. Thus, giving birth at home, enjoying the first nights with baby from the comfort of my own bed and being surrounded by a familiar environment meant for me I had more energy and peace. Whenever the life of a new mother is made easy in some way, she can enjoy peace of mind and the strength to learn this ancestral and beautiful art: breastfeeding her baby.