Live with Randa from L'audace d'être soi or #daring to be #yourself

Live with Randa from L'audace d'être soi or #daring to be #yourself

Randa’s youtube channel is L’audace d’être soi (in French) and this is her facebook page.

In this live my friend my sister, Randa and I talked about the following subjects:

1. What is codependency and why is it important to put words on our pain?

Far from cultivating resentment, the approach here is to get informed to identify narcissistic behaviors and manipulation in order to protect ourselves.

Randa mentioned several great books and research on narcissistic abuse and she knows what she is talking about because she experienced a toxic relationship in her life.

To understand what codependency is, Randa warmly recommends the book by Lisa A. Romano Codependent – Now What? Its Not You – Its Your Programming.

I also got trapped into a toxic relationship my friend my sister, as mentioned notably in the video “I chose to live with a psychopath by ignoring the red flags #phenix“.

It is crucial to understand that codependency leads us to make irrational decisions my friend my sister, because as empaths we are driven by the desire to please others and save them, even to our detriment.

Moreover, gaslighting is a manipulation of reality which can make us almost hypnotized, exhausted and unable to have any discernment, because we already have a poor self image.

Randa mentioned the book by Ramani S. Durvasula “Don’t You Know Who I Am?”: How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility and the one by Ross Rosenberg The Human Magnet Syndrome: The Codependent Narcissist Trap.

Once we have understood how a toxic relationship works, once we have become aware that we were not responsible for the emotional abuse we may have suffered during childhood when we were totally vulnerable and dependent, then we can take our power and personal responsibility back in order to live our adult life more peacefully.

2. What is your parents’ role (with respect and understanding)?

Sometimes we get a very idealized version of our parents. This prevents us from connecting back to what really happened. Some of us experienced emotional blackmail, borderline personalities, suicide threats, the fear of loosing our parents love with no reason.

When I choose to be clear on the fact that I did not get the love I desired so badly to receive from my parents just because I was alive, then I can move forward.

I choose to grieve the mother I will never have and I can cry on the family I wanted to get.

I choose to grieve and to understand that I am enough just the way I am. On that note, Randa mentioned the book Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers by Doctor Karyl McBride.

I choose to grieve while not taking things personally, as taught by Don Miguel Ruiz in this great book The four agreements.

Moreover, Randa talked about the author Susan Forward, who has written Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life (I did the review of that book here: “#Book review Toxic Parents by Susan Forward“) and Mothers Who Can’t Love: A Healing Guide for Daughters.

You will get lots of information also thanks to neuropsychiatrist and psychoanalyst Boris Cyrulnik, notably about toxic shame and how to overcome recurring flashbacks. Boris Cyrulnik has written Resilience: How Your Inner Strength Can Set You Free from the Past.

What remains at the end of this process is compassion for the suffering of our parents who really did the best they could.

3. How to rebuild our life after a toxic relationship and what does it mean to dare to be ourselves?

Randa explains very well how we can get free of manipulation when we get clear in our mind. Furthermore, she identifies three steps on the way towards rebuild our sense of self, the self we neglected.

The first step is about getting aware that there is an issue. Then comes grief. Lastly, the last step is alchemy or turning what happened to us into something positive.

Randa also underlines the importance of addressing chronic stress thanks to mind-body therapy and grounding, for instance walking barefood in nature.

Indeed, what happened to us is stored inside our body, even when we cannot see it anymore. On that topic, a must-read book is The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk.

Randa also mentioned yoga and recommended that you choose a certified teacher carefully, for instance using the website about Iyengar yoga in the US.

Lastly, it is possible to learn to remother ourselves and comfort our inner child. Joanna Smith has written a brilliant book on the topic called A la rencontre de son bébé intérieur (in French).

Thank you for supporting Randa and I my friend my sister,

Lots of love,

Claire

How #yoga saved me from #backpain Thank you @YogaWithAdriene

How #yoga saved me from #backpain Thank you @YogaWithAdriene

Walking miles and miles while carrying a heavy load (vegetables from the market) hurt my back.

If yoga helped me this is because I have been practicing regularly for over 13 years now. Yoga makes my body flexible and strong.

Thank you yoga, you prevented me from spending money on medical bills.

Thank you to the youtube channel Yoga With Adriene.

My favorite videos to ease back pain are “Yoga For Back Pain – Yoga Basics“, “Yoga For Lower Back Pain” and “Heart And Hips Practice | Hands Free Yoga | Yoga With Adriene“.

My friend my sister, enjoying a warm bath is also a nice treat, especially when adding sea salt in it 🙂

What do I need to resolve in this life? To receive love and abundance #reincarnation

What do I need to resolve in this life? To receive love and abundance #reincarnation

I highly recommend the youtube channel of Hans Wilhelm.

I love learning about reincarnation, our purpose on earth and how to clear our life path of karma.

I thought about the teachings of Hans Wilhelm and reached the following conclusion: I am on this earth, in this body, so that my soul can experience what unconditional love is and what receiving abundance feels.

Oftentimes, we are on earth to experience what we really lacked. As if the universe had planned everything for us.

What about you my friend my sister? Why are you here to experience?

 

Justine from Blog d’une partageuse or to be #true and share it

Justine from Blog d'une partageuse or to be #true and share it

“Live more simply”. With such a sub-title, the “Blog d’une partageuse” (Blog of a sharer) instantly sparked my interest.

I was touched by Justine, her fragility, her honesty and her humor, so important humor 😉

Justine accepted to answer a few questions and I thank her deeply. Of course, if you read French, have a look at https://blogdunepartageuse.com to discover her work and support her.

Thank you so much dear Justine. Thank you for reminding us that we can marry deep reflexions and a lightness to prevent us from taking ourselves seriously.

1. You started your blog a few months ago. What would be one word to describe best what writing online brought you? Why?

First of all, thank you for offering me such and opportunity to express myself on your space, to be interested in what I do.

Immediately I thought of the word “Empowerment”. First because writing what is on our heart is always an act of empowerment. Because I freed myself from the fear of being judged, the fear of not pleasing others, the fear of being myself then I finally started. Writing on this blog means I got rid of much anxiety, that I had felt daily and almost for ever.

2. You are the proof of how immersing ourselves into what we love is very fulfilling. I loved your blog article entitled “Mon blog m’a rendu ambitieuse” (My blog made me ambitious).

At the moment, writing or just uttering the word “creativity” brings me comfort, inspires me and empowers me. I feel like motivating all women to create.

Would you have some thoughts to reinforce such an idea and convince women, who may be isolated, or depressed, or even discouraged, to start and create something?

As I just said, writing is empowering. I believe everybody should try to write a few minutes daily.

Beyond writing, I would like too to advise women to practice what they feel passionate about on a daily basis, and maybe ask themselves if they could go further and share it. I believe that when we are passionate and we do it with all our heart, then it is of interest to others and can get an audience, it brings people positive vibes, this is what I aim to do, by always tackling subjects I am passionate about on my blog. Consequently, by touching them, we can meet beautiful persons and feel far less lonely. Even if, at first, it is only virtual. I do not think we should be afraid if such a virtual aspect. Those who are afraid of it may have forgotten that real people are behind the screen inasmuch as when we receive kind messages, they have been sent by nice people, not by a robot computer. So these relationships are magnificent too.

3. In your articles, your videos and your photos, you are natural, true and with no filter. Is such a vulnerability empowering or difficult to manage?

First thank you, it touches me so much because this is the image I try to offer so I am happy to know it works. Maybe I digress but I wish to say that it is now 6 years since I stopped wearing make-up and it is something which allowed me to learn to know myself and to love myself as I am.

Also I was alone for a year, only with my partner, but without almost any contact with friends. It completely turned my life around. This is when I really discovered myself and realized that I would sometimes change to be attracted and to please others. So I took the decision to never act according to other people’s expectations and stay as true as possible. To answer your questions, it was 100% empowering. Even if being too spontaneous, sometimes, and saying things I maybe should not, because they could hurt, is amazing. “Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” (Gandhi). I try to apply this every day of my life.

4. What advice would you give a woman who feels like starting to write and sharing it, as you do, generously with others?

I do not know if I am in capacity to provide some advice. What I can say though is that we must assume it 100%. I had another blog before this one but I was afraid of judgement, so I talked about it to only 2 or 3 people. Consequently, I did not get much visits nor comments. Then I understood that I had this deep need to share with more people, so I assume it 100%, I tried to meet people with similar vibes and shared interests, notably on Instagram (@blogdunepartageuse). The best piece of advice I can give after this, is to genuinely be interested in what others do. If we expect it to come without effort and without any giving, it will not work.

Dear Justine, I thank you so much to be as you are. You are one of the people who do not make me wary.

It feels so good, each time I read your blog blogdunepartageuse.com and your Instagram posts (@blogdunepartageuse), and now when I watch you on youtube on the channel “Justine Blogdunepartageuse“, to immerse myself in such an ocean of kindness, humor and freshness.

I feel touched and so flattered to have replied to the questions of such a brilliant women, sincerely! And you reader of this interview: go and read Claire’s book, it is great! Thank you Claire!!

Life experiences and happy shared moments are true abundance #minimalism

Life experiences and happy shared moments are true abundance #minimalism

I decided to redefine my priorities. I chose minimalism. My life became more abundant. My home started to feel bigger, while my mind was clearer. The children and I gave, sold and recycled most of our material possessions.

The most important resides in happy shared moments with loved ones. Warm memories stay in our heart. This is true abundance and wealth.

In the present video, I mention the amazing fantastic book by Tama Kieves called Inspired and unstoppable.

"Inspired & Unstoppable" by Tama Kieves

If you read French, I am happily reading L’art du minimalisme by Elodie-Joy Jaubert. Her YouTube channel is Sirène Bio.

L'art du minimalisme de Elodie-Joy Jaubert

 

How will you use your voice my friend my sister? We need you #express yourself

How will you use your voice my friend my sister? We need you #express yourself

I am delighted that Dan the Liferegenerator is publishing videos again on youtube. Check him out. He has a very unique style and is not politically correct. However, it is such a pleasure to listen to him. He reinforces my convictions as regard to raw food and fasting.

What about you, my friend, my sister? How will you use your voice? How will you choose to express yourself and, maybe, help someone at the other end of the world? The world needs your unique voice, how you express and what you have to share.

 

 

 

When messages come together or the whole world inspires us #onevoice

When messages come together or the whole world inspires us #onevoice

It blows my mind to discover all these speakers and authors who are speaking in what seems to be one voice. I have been following great personalities like Teal Swan and Markus Rothkranz for years. However, it is very recent for me to discover that some people share a similar message, but in French! I feel surrounded by a supportive worldwide community of authors and open-minded persons.

Here are a few of my favorite inspiring people in English:

1. Teal Swan on youtube and author of Shadows before dawn and The completion process

2. Ralph Smart on youtube

3. Maryam Hasnaa on youtube

4. Markus Rothkranz on youtube

5. Evette Rose has written many books and notably a book about surviving an abusive relationship called Finding your own voice

6. Deepak Chopra has written so many books, notably lately The Healing Self: A Revolutionary New Plan to Supercharge Your Immunity and Stay Well for Life

7. Jay Shetty on youtube

8. Preston Smiles on youtube has written a book with this wife Alexi Panos entitled Now or Never: Your Epic Life in 5 Steps

9. Alexi Panos on youtube

10. Abraham Hicks on youtube

And in French just in case:

1. Grégory Mutombo on youtube

2. Conrad on youtube

3. Luc Bodin is a doctor and has written a book called Pour une guérison complète et globale du corps, de l’esprit et de l’âme – Pour comprendre et éviter la maladie

4. Jacques Antonin is a very interesting wise man whom I discovered in a documentary entitled “Jacques Antonin : Nourrir notre âme” on the youtube channel Le chou brave

5. Valérie J’espère on youtube

6. Sylvain du Boullay has translated a Course in Miracles from English to French

7. Franck Lopvet on youtube

8. Serge-Reiver Nazare speaks about extraterrestrials and nature in such a compassionate and kind way; he is the author of Conversations avec Gaia

9. Chantal Rialland on youtube

10. Laurent E Levy on youtube

Teal Swan has written many books and notably The completion process:

The Completion Process The Practice of Putting Yourself Back Together Again TEAL SWAN

One of Evette Rose’ books is especially written for victims of abuse and people still trapped in childhood experiences and it is entitled Finding Your Own Voice: Your past can control who you are, until you find your own voice:

Finding Your Own Voice Your past can control who you are, until you find your own voice Evette Rose

Deepak Chopra’ latest book is called The Healing Self: A Revolutionary New Plan to Supercharge Your Immunity and Stay Well for Life:

The Healing Self A Revolutionary New Plan to Supercharge Your Immunity and Stay Well for Life Deepak Chopra

This is the great Now or never:

now or never preston smiles alexi panos

If you read French, look at this beautiful book:

Conversations avec Gaia Et les consciences de la nature Serge Reiver Nazare

 

Thank you Jannecke Øinæs from Wisdom from North #feelgood youtube channel

Thank you Jannecke Øinæs from Wisdom from North #feelgood youtube channel

I watch Jannecke’ videos as I would listen to a dear old friend. There is such warmth, such comfort and joy in Jannecke’ body of work on her youtube channel Wisdom from North. She conducted so many interviews with spontaneity and intelligence. She is so smart and curious that she can tackle various subjects, from law of attraction to life after death. She is so talented that she made me listen to interviews about extraterrestrials, a topic to which I did not have any interest in before.

Jannecke from Wisdom from North opened my mind to new ideas. Thus, after listening to the interview she did of the breatharian Ray Maor, I was able to fast even better during my humble 3-day-fasts. Thank you Wisdom from North, thank you Jannecke and congratulations for such commitment to serve.

 

Thank you Danielle Laporte #inspiration, desires and feelings

Thank you Danielle Laporte #inspiration, desires and feelings Claire Samuel

When I think of Danielle Laporte and her amazing message, I already feel relaxed. Danielle Laporte taught me to start by how I want to feel. Almost every morning, I ask myself: “How do I want to feel today and which actions can I take to lead me there?” I love how she talks about desire and feelings. She has a website and youtube channel.

he Desire Map - A Guide to Creating Goals With Soul

and:

White Hot Truth - Clarity for Keeping It Real on Your Spiritual Path - from One Seeker to Another