It is crucial to understand that codependency leads us to make irrational decisions my friend my sister, because as empaths we are driven by the desire to please others and save them, even to our detriment.
Moreover, gaslighting is a manipulation of reality which can make us almost hypnotized, exhausted and unable to have any discernment, because we already have a poor self image.
Once we have understood how a toxic relationship works, once we have become aware that we were not responsible for the emotional abuse we may have suffered during childhood when we were totally vulnerable and dependent, then we can take our power and personal responsibility back in order to live our adult life more peacefully.
2. What is your parents’ role (with respect and understanding)?
Sometimes we get a very idealized version of our parents. This prevents us from connecting back to what really happened. Some of us experienced emotional blackmail, borderline personalities, suicide threats, the fear of loosing our parents love with no reason.
When I choose to be clear on the fact that I did not get the love I desired so badly to receive from my parents just because I was alive, then I can move forward.
I choose to grieve the mother I will never have and I can cry on the family I wanted to get.
I love learning about reincarnation, our purpose on earth and how to clear our life path of karma.
I thought about the teachings of Hans Wilhelm and reached the following conclusion: I am on this earth, in this body, so that my soul can experience what unconditional love is and what receiving abundance feels.
Oftentimes, we are on earth to experience what we really lacked. As if the universe had planned everything for us.
What about you my friend my sister? Why are you here to experience?
Nathalie is the beautiful woman behind the Instagram account @mes_merveilleuses_fragilites. Please have a look and use the integrated Instagram translator because her posts are worth a read.
She shines with vitality and softness. However she had many storms to go through in her life, like all of us.
She carried on going forward, seeking the right path and cultivating gratitude.
It is my wish that the insights she shares in the interview become a source of inspiration and motivation for you to move forward, to choose your life and enjoy to the fullest each breath we have the privilege to fill our lungs with, at each moment.
Nathalie from @mes_merveilleuses_fragilites and I started by expressing respect and gratitude for all the men in our life, in all their greatness and for all the lessons they taught us.
Then we shared tips and support to help women find the spark inside themselves to choose their life.
Nathalie and I both live in Tunisia, Africa. We saluted and thanked Tunisia for being such a welcoming country for both of us.
Furthermore, Nathalie explained why she has chosen to share her message so generously with others.
Lastly, we made a point of how each breath was life-giving and how meditation was a way to freedom, notably to relieve pain.
“Live more simply”. With such a sub-title, the “Blog d’une partageuse” (Blog of a sharer) instantly sparked my interest.
I was touched by Justine, her fragility, her honesty and her humor, so important humor 😉
Justine accepted to answer a few questions and I thank her deeply. Of course, if you read French, have a look at https://blogdunepartageuse.com to discover her work and support her.
Thank you so much dear Justine. Thank you for reminding us that we can marry deep reflexions and a lightness to prevent us from taking ourselves seriously.
1. You started your blog a few months ago. What would be one word to describe best what writing online brought you? Why?
First of all, thank you for offering me such and opportunity to express myself on your space, to be interested in what I do.
Immediately I thought of the word “Empowerment”. First because writing what is on our heart is always an act of empowerment. Because I freed myself from the fear of being judged, the fear of not pleasing others, the fear of being myself then I finally started. Writing on this blog means I got rid of much anxiety, that I had felt daily and almost for ever.
2. You are the proof of how immersing ourselves into what we love is very fulfilling. I loved your blog article entitled “Mon blog m’a rendu ambitieuse” (My blog made me ambitious).
At the moment, writing or just uttering the word “creativity” brings me comfort, inspires me and empowers me. I feel like motivating all women to create.
Would you have some thoughts to reinforce such an idea and convince women, who may be isolated, or depressed, or even discouraged, to start and create something?
As I just said, writing is empowering. I believe everybody should try to write a few minutes daily.
Beyond writing, I would like too to advise women to practice what they feel passionate about on a daily basis, and maybe ask themselves if they could go further and share it. I believe that when we are passionate and we do it with all our heart, then it is of interest to others and can get an audience, it brings people positive vibes, this is what I aim to do, by always tackling subjects I am passionate about on my blog. Consequently, by touching them, we can meet beautiful persons and feel far less lonely. Even if, at first, it is only virtual. I do not think we should be afraid if such a virtual aspect. Those who are afraid of it may have forgotten that real people are behind the screen inasmuch as when we receive kind messages, they have been sent by nice people, not by a robot computer. So these relationships are magnificent too.
3. In your articles, your videos and your photos, you are natural, true and with no filter. Is such a vulnerability empowering or difficult to manage?
First thank you, it touches me so much because this is the image I try to offer so I am happy to know it works. Maybe I digress but I wish to say that it is now 6 years since I stopped wearing make-up and it is something which allowed me to learn to know myself and to love myself as I am.
Also I was alone for a year, only with my partner, but without almost any contact with friends. It completely turned my life around. This is when I really discovered myself and realized that I would sometimes change to be attracted and to please others. So I took the decision to never act according to other people’s expectations and stay as true as possible. To answer your questions, it was 100% empowering. Even if being too spontaneous, sometimes, and saying things I maybe should not, because they could hurt, is amazing. “Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” (Gandhi). I try to apply this every day of my life.
4. What advice would you give a woman who feels like starting to write and sharing it, as you do, generously with others?
I do not know if I am in capacity to provide some advice. What I can say though is that we must assume it 100%. I had another blog before this one but I was afraid of judgement, so I talked about it to only 2 or 3 people. Consequently, I did not get much visits nor comments. Then I understood that I had this deep need to share with more people, so I assume it 100%, I tried to meet people with similar vibes and shared interests, notably on Instagram (@blogdunepartageuse). The best piece of advice I can give after this, is to genuinely be interested in what others do. If we expect it to come without effort and without any giving, it will not work.
Dear Justine, I thank you so much to be as you are. You are one of the people who do not make me wary.
It feels so good, each time I read your blog blogdunepartageuse.com and your Instagram posts (@blogdunepartageuse), and now when I watch you on youtube on the channel “Justine Blogdunepartageuse“, to immerse myself in such an ocean of kindness, humor and freshness.
I feel touched and so flattered to have replied to the questions of such a brilliant women, sincerely! And you reader of this interview: go and read Claire’s book, it is great! Thank you Claire!!
I decided to redefine my priorities. I chose minimalism. My life became more abundant. My home started to feel bigger, while my mind was clearer. The children and I gave, sold and recycled most of our material possessions.
The most important resides in happy shared moments with loved ones. Warm memories stay in our heart. This is true abundance and wealth.
I am delighted that Dan the Liferegenerator is publishing videos again on youtube. Check him out. He has a very unique style and is not politically correct. However, it is such a pleasure to listen to him. He reinforces my convictions as regard to raw food and fasting.
What about you, my friend, my sister? How will you use your voice? How will you choose to express yourself and, maybe, help someone at the other end of the world? The world needs your unique voice, how you express and what you have to share.
It blows my mind to discover all these speakers and authors who are speaking in what seems to be one voice. I have been following great personalities like Teal Swan and Markus Rothkranz for years. However, it is very recent for me to discover that some people share a similar message, but in French! I feel surrounded by a supportive worldwide community of authors and open-minded persons.
Here are a few of my favorite inspiring people in English:
I watch Jannecke’ videos as I would listen to a dear old friend. There is such warmth, such comfort and joy in Jannecke’ body of work on her youtube channel Wisdom from North. She conducted so many interviews with spontaneity and intelligence. She is so smart and curious that she can tackle various subjects, from law of attraction to life after death. She is so talented that she made me listen to interviews about extraterrestrials, a topic to which I did not have any interest in before.
Jannecke from Wisdom from North opened my mind to new ideas. Thus, after listening to the interview she did of the breatharian Ray Maor, I was able to fast even better during my humble 3-day-fasts. Thank you Wisdom from North, thank you Jannecke and congratulations for such commitment to serve.