I teach my children that we must prioritize ourselves. Not out of selfishness but to avoid running on empty. Sometimes they ask me questions because they see me prioritizing them so much: “What about you Mum?” they wonder.
I don’t always apply the concept of putting myself first because they are my children and I love them so much. Sadly, the result is always the same: when I don’t fill my cup first, I cannot be the mother I wish to be for them.
I don’t want them to feel guilty when they witness how much work it is to take care of them without getting any break. I do my best to explain that when I take care of myself it is also to take care of themselves better. It can be having some me time or seeing other adults.
What about you my friend my sister? Do you have words to explain in simple terms to children how self care is crucial for a mother? Let’s share and help each other and all women!
I tried quality time with my children, but it did not work. I changed my career and my whole life to be more present with them, without being particularly focused on them all the time. It helped our relationship tremendously.
I trust my children and try to say yes when I can but honestly, sometimes the right answer is simply no.
Raising children is a luck and an honor, even though it is so challenging at times. Even if we give birth to them, kids do not belong to us. I like to remind myself that my role is very special. I am meant to be the example, not to treat them as clay to mold according to my preferences. I feel keeping in mind that they are their own person makes me a better human being.
I have never been forced to eat when I was a child thanks to my dear mother, who luckily believed in the body’s intelligence. Therefore, not forcing a child to put food into his body seems the most natural thing to do, especially when a child is sick.
I believe the body needs to focus his energy on repairing itself when it is sick, not on digesting heavy foods.
One day at school, where they force kids to eat their lunch, my son vomited just after lunch. The following day, I went to see the person in charge. I could not make my point to the school staff. They were afraid my son would faint if he did not eat.
What is your opinion my friend my sister? Peace and love and blessings to you!
I stopped giving 10 euros per month to my children because I want to first earn more than I spend before continuing giving them pocket money. Also, I feel they are not happy because it is never enough for them.
Can you relate my friend my sister?
I was an addict: I am a recovered bulimic. Hence the worry when my daughter weighs herself all day. She is thin but cannot see it. I tell her how amazingly beautiful she is. Any advice my friend my sister?