My son said that two of his friends were beaten at home with an electric cable by their mother.
I am not in a position to judge. I refuse to criticize their mother, even if I do not agree with the act of beating a child.
Being a single mum is so demanding. It pushes you to the edge of patience.
Please join me and send positive vibes to all the single mums out there.
The family was under crisis because my son was not well.
Some old trauma was rising to the surface of his mind and bothering him a lot.
His teacher was concerned.
Mangas helped him. In a very unexpected way, he really got into drawing videos on youtube and created amazing mangas.
He was proud of himself.
There is always a way, a help, some support.
May we have the eyes and the open mind to discover it.
My son stole money from me and his teacher told me he was an unhappy pupil. I got in touch with a psychologist we saw for a short period last year. She referred me to a child psychiatrist.
However, something in me told me that it would be a better investment to spend time with my son. To be present. I changed my whole career to be more present but he needs even more.
Yes it challenging because I also need to work. Yes it frightens me. Yes it feels overwhelming.
I love working from home but taking care of the children nonstop without any interruption, except when they are at school, is so demanding.
So I choose to do my best to help the kids grow, while taking care of me, doing what I love as much as possible, teaching them to respect boundaries and dealing with their incessant fights.
I am not perfect. I am human and true because I want to let you know you are not alone. We all have challenges.
1. Ask your child for an effort, ask for something to be done,
2. Describe what the child has decided to do, describe how your kid did the requested action or chose not to do it, and
3. Describe the consequences the child now faces according to his choice: had he chose to behave like a baby, I will not be able to entrust him with as many responsabilities.
My goal is to never shame my children. I do my best to focus on the behavior they choose to display. Their worth cannot be altered, they cannot be bad but only choose bad behavior sometimes.
Is learning to deal with frustration and being able to delay instant gratification a secret to success in life?
I believe it is one skill we can teach to our children.
I have so much gratitude towards my neighbor who kindly invited the children and I on a road trip to Thoiry, France.
I asked him what it was like to live next door to a single mum of two lively kids.
I share beautiful photos from Thoiry animals below. This is a zoo unlike others, where you can drive through the wild animals, zebras, giraffes, bears, wolves and many others.
Seeing animals feels somewhat magical. Personally, I am never in contact with animals. Maybe this will change in Tunisia. Maybe I’ll have a cat, who knows? It is said that it is the animal which chooses us. What do you think?
Meanwhile, please visit Thoiry zoo if you go to France. The children loved it so much.
A big black bear just outside the car:
The whole lion family:
Mister Zebra I respect you:
So much grace:
Even a white wolf!
The pretty giraffes:
Thank you Thoiry zoo!
My favorite picture:
It was late, I had wished the kids good night and was starting to peacefully fall asleep, when my intuition startled me.
I had to say one last thing to the children.
I sleep on the living room sofa next to their bedroom so it is easy to communicate from one bed to the other.
I asked them if they were still aware that I love them for ever, in the same way when they do mistakes and when they behave well.
The next morning I could feel my son feel lighter.
I am deeply convinced that children really do the very best they can.
Sometimes kids have a hard time putting themselves in a box like school and society want them to.
I feel in my heart how these reminders of unconditional love are important, even with children of 8 and 11 years old.