It is easy to fall into gossip and judgement. I took the decision to stay far away from negative critics not only as a healthy lifestyle habit, but also as a way of raising my children.
Kids watch us closely, our behavior and our judgement of life and others, positive or negative.
It requires courage to stay in love and patience, instead of gossiping and complaining. However, it is deeply satisfying to have open-minded children, full of compassion for others. This is the best reward for years of effort.
Self confidence is the magical powder we as mothers would like to add to our children breakfast cereals.
So yes indeed I am so satisfied when I hear my daughter list all her qualities out loud 😉
I tell my 12-year-old daughter that she will be more beautiful, more intelligent, more abundant and happier than me. I am one step of the ladder which human beings are on, evolving all the time towards expansion.
My children are 8 and 11 years old. All these years have been a confirmation of what I always knew inside: children really do their very best. Always.
I refuse that my children play video games.
I am worried when 8-year-old kids say that “war must be cool“.
I am feeling better when my son feels deeply moved by a book (in French sorry) about children escaping the war in Syria.
Please share if you know similar books in English.
Once again, I am deeply convinced that children do the very best they can.
If a child displays a negative behavior, I believe it means that he is not well so I refuse to add to his predicament the loneliness of feeling misunderstood.
I refuse to criticize the teachers of my children in front of them, even when I do not agree with their way of teaching or speaking to kids (by sometimes screaming at them for instance).
To their discharge, they are part of a rigid school system, which slowly evolves (or so I hope).
I listen to the complaints of my son’s teacher, then I comfort my child as to the unconditional love I feel for him. Back home with my child, I inquire about how he sees what happened.
Taking good care of the trust bond between my children and I is of utmost importance. It goes with believing what they say to me before anything else.
I want my children to be aware of the love I have for them.
Misbehavior or not. For ever.
My eight-year-old son was told by his teacher that he was allowed to shout during recess as a way of letting go and having fun.
Nevertheless, one staff member of the school threatened to punish him when he shouted during recess.
Children do not see their teacher as different from member of the staff because they all belong to the school system. Moreover, staff members take care of the children a lot after class. They do not have any training as regard to child psychology. One staff member told my daughter once: “You are one stupid girl” (she is top of her class today).
I have the intuition that our children really need congruence and, as always, it starts by ourselves.
I am the first one who must do my best to stay congruent. As always, it is impossible to pretend or hide when taking care of children.
I must take responsibility for my choices and explain and justify because children need to understand why they are asked something.
More generally, I feel good and I can look myself in the eyes in front of the mirror only if I am congruent between what I say and what I do.