Two personal stories and two lessons. First, the opinions of others are a projection of their beliefs and personal life experiences. Second, making the judgements of others part of our thinking can be detrimental to our life. It is our responsibility to act according to our intuition and personal integrity. We have our own life to live, not the life of others.
My dear blender burnt in a house fire. I loved smoothies so much, yet there is a good thing is that. I now create amazing and beautiful delicious raw vegan salads that I add on my Instagram to inspire you, notably the abundance salad, the contrasts salad and the black and white salad.
Finding the good thing in every situation is an exercise I love doing with my children.
The cells of our beautiful body store memories of past traumas and buried emotions. Such a concept is brought again so many times in the books I read. Yesterday as I was reading the book by Doctor Habib Sadeghi The clarity cleanse, it came again. How can we then get free? How can we fly from old memories and rise like a phenix?
Again, meditation is a very useful tool for recovery. Meditation helps our body to get rid of buried negative emotions, like shame and deep grief. I find it so helpful to sit with myself for 15 minutes and listen to a guided meditation. I feel my body getting cleaner. For the first time, I can really feel my body and my emotions, without trying to escape from them. By seeing past trauma and fears in the eyes, I can let go of them, release them, feel clean.
There is another amazing video of Teal Swan about addictions called “How to Overcome Addiction – Teal Swan“. Again, meditation is presented as one tool to help us recover from addictions. They seem to me like a way of escaping old and painful stuff our body stored but does not need anymore.
My favourite guided meditations are by Christophe André, available in French:
and Spanish: “Meditar día a día: 25 lecciones para vivir con mindfulness“:
There is nothing wrong with us, we do not have to change because we are perfectly imperfect. May we not color our life the way other people would like us to because if would make them more comfortable. If we do not fit, if we are weird, so be it. May we move forward, even if people deny our reality. May we believe in ourselves instead of blaming us for not being good enough.
People want to convince us there is something wrong with us because it is easier to manipulate someone with a low self-esteem. My friend, we are responsible for our life 100%. May we take control of it, may we fly away from mediocrity, may we own who we are today and who we are becoming.
I choose sincerity. Sometimes I admit to my children that I am annoyed because they can play and I have chores to do. I also truly love working, so I say it to them as well. My point is not to sacrifice my happiness for their sake, as some people are trying me to do. Moreover my happiness is not contradictory to their joy and well-being. Some people value never moving places for the sake of the children for instance. Others think it is best to not get a divorce even when the relationship is failing, for the sake of the children.
I do not want my children to bear the burden of guilt. I am doing the best to provide for them and raise them as best as I can while following my joy.
Getting rid of emotions which no longer serve us, forgiving people who hurt us, making peace with our past, all of the above is required to our well-being and to the happiness of our children as well. Hence, the aim is to avoid projecting onto our children emotions which do not belong to them.
It is the story of the baby who cried in silence. It is the story of the premature baby who had a heart so big that he could feel my sadness, even when my tears fell without making a sound.
My mother once offered me a vase looking like crumpled paper saying: “It is crumpled like your life is“. I had just escaped from abuse.
However it is not my truth and it is my mission, my friend, my sister, to tell you that you are not broken nor damaged.
Whatever happened in the past, we came out of it alive and we can be proud to have overcame so many obstacles.
We could say that we are like a broken vase but which parts were glued together with gold (the Japanese art of Kintsugi). We are even more beautiful and stronger than the version of ourselves before the trauma happened.