Do you feel your #childhood had the aridity of a desert?

Do you feel your #childhood had the aridity of a desert?

I love my mother. However, I am unable to wrap my head around her behavior. I have come to accept that I shall spend my life expecting a sign from her that I am good enough, even though such sign will never come.

Instead of sadness, this situation brings me motivation to be even more loving towards my children. I am proud of myself when I have patience and understanding for my children.

Today I wish to extend my compassion to us all who had a childhood like the Sahara desert. A childhood of loneliness and feeling unworthy.

I want to wrap my arms around the child I was. I want to say to her that she is loveable, beautiful, smart and deserves the very best of life. I feel the tears in my eyes as I look at this child whispering to her that freedom and abundance are her birth rights.

Lots of love sister. You are a human being. You deserve to love and be loved.

3 reasons to read The #Emotion Code to remove trapped emotions

3 reasons to read The #Emotion Code to remove trapped emotions

I really enjoyed reading The Emotion Code by Dr. Bradley Nelson and this is why.

1. The reason

Trapped emotions come from unresolved traumas. It happens to nearly all of us.

2. The method

Using muscle testing, the trapped emotion will be identified first.

Then, it will be released using a magnet.

The book The Emotion Code describes such a technique in detail.

3. The way of living to avoid trapped emotions

We choose our emotions, positive or negative.

The three keys to a healthy emotional life are forgiveness, charity and integrity.

A new video will be released soon once I have tested the method on the children and me.

Meanwhile, enjoy the great interview of the author of The Emotion Code by Inspire Nation “DR BRADLEY NELSON: Best Interview on EMOTION CODE Technique, Removing Heart Walls & Muscle Testing“.

Automatic writing for the first time The Clarity Cleanse PEW #gratitude

Automatic writing for the first time The Clarity Cleanse PEW #gratitude

Doctor Habib Sadeghi’ book The Clarity Cleanse contains a very important and interesting recommended practice: automatic writing.

Writing without thinking about the words which come out on the paper. Writing like a purge, to let go of buried emotions.

The aim is to gain clarity and feel free of the past.

It was the first time I tried automatic writing. On the sheet, my pen could not stop writing words of gratitude, for my life, my children and my friends.

How to stay alive when everything falls apart? #hanginthere

How to stay alive when everything falls apart? #hanginthere

Whenever I experience so much sadness that it is as if my whole body is in pain, I look for one part of my body which is pain free.

Very often, I choose one finger. I feel how in this one finger, no pain is present.

This exercise can be done on a more subtle way.

What is good and positive in your life? However small, if you can find one little good thing in your life, focus on it. Let it be a support to feel better about yourself.

Let it grow as you focus on it. Let it be the starting point to a better life. Pain does not last my friend my sister. You deserve happiness and joy. Hang in there. Blessings.

How can we teach our #children what unconditional love is?

How can we teach our #children what unconditional love is?

It was late, I had wished the kids good night and was starting to peacefully fall asleep, when my intuition startled me.

I had to say one last thing to the children.

I sleep on the living room sofa next to their bedroom so it is easy to communicate from one bed to the other.

I asked them if they were still aware that I love them for ever, in the same way when they do mistakes and when they behave well.

The next morning I could feel my son feel lighter.

I am deeply convinced that children really do the very best they can.
Sometimes kids have a hard time putting themselves in a box like school and society want them to.

I feel in my heart how these reminders of unconditional love are important, even with children of 8 and 11 years old.

10 reasons to #read The clarity cleanse by Doctor Habib Sadeghi

#Book review The clarity cleanse by Doctor Habib Sadeghi

I discovered Doctor Habib Sadeghi’ book thanks to Dara Dubinet.

The emotional healing part interested me the most in this book.

There is a fabulous interview of Doctor Habib Sadeghi by Inspire Nation available here.

  1. Feeling our emotions and self-care

The clarity cleanse is a book which teaches us to contain (be present with) our emotions, instead of suppressing them or being overwhelmed by them. I love the emphasis put on giving meaning to a traumatic experience. By processing what happens into our life, we avoid our body to be damaged by it and start showing it with disease. When Doctor Sadeghi writes that “our biography dictates our biology“, it is yet another reason to practice self-care. Moreover, self-care is generous, I am deeply convinced of this. Dr Sadeghi clearly states that “giving to ourselves first is one of the greatest gifts we could ever give to those we love“.

2. Flowing with change

Dr Sadeghi says that everything is changing, moving, so we are not stuck either. Our circumstances will change. It reminds be of buddhism.

3. Taking responsability for own emotional waste

I can also draw a parallel between The clarity cleanse and The four agreements when Dr Sadeghi explains that it is our responsability to process our emotional waste, instead of burdening other people with it.

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book) - Claire Samuel

I loved the exercise where we are invited to start a dialogue between our judgemental self and our authentic self, by asking open-ended questions about what bothers us in life. It is even advised to alternatively sit on two separate chairs to do this exercise.

4. Can you spot the lesson in this?

As I teach my children, in every bad thing we can find a good thing. In a more elaborate way, The clarity cleanse reads “in every negative experience there is vital information that will serve us by helping us learn and grow“. Understanding what lessons our circumstances teach us is a prerequisite to adopting a positive view about them.

5. Accepting what is

I can also find some similarity between The clarity cleanse and Byron Katie’ books (notably Loving what is) when Dr Sadeghi writes that the important thing is to accept what is. Therefore, may we accept pain as we accept joy, knowing things move and change.

Loving what is by Byron Katie

6. Forgiveness starts with ourselves

Dr Sadeghi teaches us to forgive ourselves, for thinking we needed validation of others, for believing we were unworthy of love. This is such a valuable lesson.

7. Body and mind

The whole point of this book is to demonstrate how body and mind are connected. It goes against the French philosopher Descartes, who coined the idea of our mind being totally separated from our body.

8. Clarity is a journey

Seeking clarity is a life’s journey and it is not easy. It reminded of a great Teal Swan video called “Will Healing Ever End? – Teal Swan“. Nevertheless, this ongoing process does not mean in any way we are broken sister.

Clarity raises our oxytocin levels, the love hormone, the more we put effort into it. Persistence, patience and consistency are key words here. It leads to faith, knowing our desires will come to fruition even though we do not know how yet, then the manifestation of our desires.

Clarity also mean doing some spring cleaning into our relationships. I personally experienced the relief letting go of toxic people brings.

9. What is lack of clarity?

Lacking clarity means having preconceived judgements, misinterpretations or limiting beliefs. They make reality cloudy.

At the end of The clarity cleanse, there is a list of definitions. I can relate to the one about emotional posturing. As I explain in my book The knot in the spiral this is exactly what kept me trapped into an abusive relationship for so long. This is the definition: “repressing our emotions by pretending our lives or our situations are different/better than they actually are“.

the knot in the spiral by claire samuel

10. Clarity in our plate

The first detox diet of The clarity cleanse is a mix of sardines, brown rice and apples. I adapted this diet for a 5 day cleanse with apples as monomeals and lemon water. I do not want to go back to eating cooked food, because switching to raw changed my life in so many positive ways. It would feel very bad, because being 100% raw is an achievement for me. I cannot wait for The clarity cleanse to be adapted to us raw foodists. However, I tried to eat only apples, sprouts, seaweed and olive oil for a day and it was a disaster. I am sure it could go very well for you, but personally I am not a big fan of apples and hated it. I had two cups of hemps seeds, maca powder and cacao nibs and it felt like coming alive again. Please keep in mind this is very personal. My goal is to be honest with you on this point. You may love the detox diet and find great results afterwards.

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I love the list of recommended books at the end. Very inspiring.

the clarity cleanse