One way of rebuilding my life and getting my self confidence back was to study. I went back to college as a single mother of two children.
This was super difficult. But I persisted and got the very prestigious diploma of French lawyer.
What happened after I graduated and finished the mandatory one year of internships? I got hired in a fantastic law firm. I was well paid and working only 12 hours a day.
Nevertheless, I burned out. At some point, I couldn’t stand being trapped in an office all day long, being with people who were complaining all day, having to pretend I shared the same tastes my boss did, managing everybody’s ego within the team, never seeing my children and feeling I just wasn’t serving my life purpose.
My friend my sister, it is true that I am not using my lawyer diploma directly (although I teach legal French online), but it did made be better at speaking in public (or in front of a camera), handling difficult persons or stressed people, not taking things personally and feeling more confident when starting my own business. I did not waste my time.
I am sure you can spot some things you did in the past which are helping you now, even if they are not 100% related to what you do. Share them my friend my sister and let’s empower other women!
Second, you will be required to do essays and comments about French judicial decisions. Books can help you to learn the method. It is always the same, you just refine it as you go deeper into your law studies. I can recommend Méthodologie du droit by Frédéric-Jérôme Pansier because I had the author as a professor.
Lastly, you will get a nice and clear picture of the French legal system with books dedicated to introducing law in general within the French context. This is very valuable because afterwards you will learn through areas of focus only: criminal law, civil law and so on. You can have a look at:
Today I reply to MsKremiss who asked me a great question on youtube: how did you organize your day to go back to college while being a single mother of two?
I went back to college in third year of law. I was still working full time. I was studying during my lunch break and on evenings, at night from midnight to 3 am and early morning before walking the children to school and going to work.
In fourth year of law (the first year of my law masters), I quit my job to focus on getting my diploma. I would study all day, while taking care of the kids when they were not at school. I slept at night and was going for a 20-minute run every two days.
The lesson? Each second held the potential to be a learning second. I had the choice to prioritize studying every second.
If I had to do it over again? I would sleep more, to avoid collapsing at work and ending up at emergencies. Going back to college is a brilliant endeavor but it should not be at the expense of health.
I went back to studying to get my diploma as a lawyer because I was passionate by law. I am still very interested in law. I could do it because I was passionate about it.
Having children actually made me highly efficient and productive. It was not perfect. It was an amazing adventure.
Are you asking for money so you can go back to college and improve your future? I wrote a letter to social services asking for financial help. I was back to law university at 33 years old as single mum. The aim of the letter is to be clear, concise and easily readable.
At 20 years old, I did not even sit for the exams I had been preparing for two years. I was terrified of failing. Fifteen years afterwards, I went back to university, this time as single mother of two kids. I was different, not because of my new family status, but because I took the decision to show up this time. I sat for the exams, even without having studied 100% of what I was supposed to study. As I share in my book The knot in the spiral, the result surpassed my wildest dreams.