What was #patriarchy like? #hope for #harmony between men and women

What was #patriarchy like? #hope for #harmony between men and women

My grand-mother’s sister was locked down in an asylum at her father’s request with the help of the family doctor. Because she was a woman and a daughter and because it was another time. She was 20 years old.

Yes indeed there are many things which could be improved for harmonious relationships between men and women, but I also would like to take a little bit of gratitude time for having been born during another time, with the progress made.

If you read French there is a great book called Patriarcat fin de partie by author Chantal Revault D’allonnes.

Making people feel #guilty so they obey or getting out of codependency

Did you see Randa’s interview about codependency and how to get out of toxic relationships “Live with Randa from L’audace d’être soi or #daring to be #yourself“.

We talked about manipulation in abusive relationships.

Recently, during a conference, I heard that Friedrich Nietzsche had criticized Saint Paul a lot accusing him of making people feel guilty for the sake of making them obedient.

It made me think about the way toxic people blame us for everything that goes wrong in a relationship.

So let’s drop guilt immediately my friend my sister! Guilt does not make you move forward and it is definitely not the sign of a healthy relationship! I prefer words and values such as responsibility and kindness.

What I learned at my writing class #hidden #talent

What I learned at my writing class #hidden #talent

I feel bad when I see gifted people who do not realize how great they are, who keep putting themselves down and who do not share their creativity.

At the writing workshop I attend, there is such a woman. I now I cannot make her change about that.

It reminds me of the Wayne Dyer quote:

Do not die with your music still inside“.

Therefore I will keep reminding you that you have something special, a gift, a talent, that you can share.

Let go of perfectionism because you are worth being creative and free my friend my sister.

Wayne Dyer wrote numerous books, notably You Are What You Think: 365 Meditations for Purposeful Living:

The #present #moment or Montaigne and when I dance I dance

The #present #moment or Montaigne and when I dance I dance

French philosopher Montaigne wrote: “When I dance, I dance” and so on. Thich Nhat Hanh has a similar message and of course Eckhart Tolle is the author of the book The power of now. So I guess we could say being in the present moment rather than the past or the future is both timeless and difficult because we always need the reminder my friend my sister!

Also, I love this drawing by Charlie Mackesy, so cute and right to the point for today!

present moment

You have accepted the unacceptable #responsibility

You have accepted the unacceptable #responsibility

The child psychologist I saw for my children heard a bit of my story. I had to tell him about the abuse.

He replied: “You have accepted the unacceptable“.

Yes it makes me a bit sad but, at the same time, it means I have 100% responsibility for what I have accepted.

Therefore I can choose better next time. This is freedom, don’t you think my friend my sister?

 

 

Something I never thought I would be able to say one day #happiness

Something I never thought I would be able to say one day #happiness

For the first time in my life, I feel a true happiness in my life even though I am single.

I admire and love men and I dreamt so much of sharing my life with someone but it never happened.

Today I am in love with myself. If I meet a man one day I will be very happy, but if I stay single I will be too.

Never did I imagine being able to say such a thing before.

 

Which God? we are one

Which God? we are one

I am very happy believing in God without having to choose a religion, thank you very much.

Furthermore, I believe we are all one big family. So let’s simply start supporting each other because this world could do well with a nice big dose of kindness. Enough said.

Why we shall #dare even if we fall flat sometimes ;-)

Why we shall #dare even if we fall flat sometimes ;-)

One day, out of sheer passion for law, I asked my former professors if I could teach their class for one morning. It was a success and I was delighted!

Another day, I asked my boss if I could give a little conference about a point of financial law to the firm. I feel flat on my face because he looked at me as if I was an alien! How come a little tiny legal intern could dare to ask such a thing!!!

However contrasted, both of these experiences really helped me. Today I am able to dare far more than I did in the past.

My friend my sister, do you feel you dare enough in your life? Do you think you have grown and learned even when daring did not bring the desired outcome?

How to overcome temporary separations or #perspective

How to overcome temporary separations or #perspective

I was very sad to say goodbye to him. I did not know the exact date when we would see each other again, even though it was certain.

He said to me: “Focus on when we meet again, not on the temporary separation“.

I loved that. I love all the nuances of seeing the glass half full in life.

Maybe you have your own way of seeing the glass half full my friend my sister?