In today’s live with Randa from the French youtube channel L’audace d’être soi, we talked about loneliness and the measures that can be taken to handle it, not be afraid of it and maybe even appreciate it!
1. How fear of loneliness sometimes prevent us from getting out of a toxic relationship
We mentioned that fear of loneliness is sometimes very primal: see the book Sapiens: A Brief History of Humankind by Yuval Noah Harari.
Do not feel guilty to be afraid of loneliness my friend my sister and maybe you will identify in it a fear of the unknown.
Lastly, let’s keep in mind the addictive effect of a toxic relationship, especially if there is intermittent reinforcement (the cycle of abuse).
2. Practical tips to honor our loneliness
The secret is to give to ourselves what we would like someone else to give to us.
See my video I took the #decision to #fallinlove with myself about this topic.
3. Making peace with loneliness and teaching it to our kids
The book On Love and Loneliness by Jiddu Krishnamurti teaches us the benefits of getting to know ourselves in solitude while French book Les Âmes blessées by Boris Cyrulnik reminds us that art is a powerful transformation tool that can make us feel empowered again, author of our own life. Boris Cyrulnik has a great book in English language Resilience: How Your Inner Strength Can Set You Free from the Past.
Napoleon Hill’s book Success Through A Positive Mental Attitude is another way to remind ourselves that everything is a matter of perspective in life my friend my sister.
4. Loneliness is not a goal in itself
What if instead of experiencing loneliness as something happening to us, we were choosing to surround ourselves with right-minded people for instance by taking drawing or dance classes?
We ended the live stream by this beautiful quote from French author Jacques Salomé “Becoming one’s best friend“. He has written notably If Only I’d Listen to Myself: Resolving the Conflicts That Sabotage Our Lives.
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