I don’t want to be a scruffy #mother! – Motherhood and Femininity Series Ep. 3

I don't want to be a scruffy #mother! - Motherhood and Femininity Series Ep. 3

I was invited for a first date. I had a gorgeous dress is powder pink. I even remember the café in the north of Paris, with a golden statue and magnificent stairs.

I thought I was so in love with this man, until he said to me: “I want you to be the mother of my children“. Ouch. A mother? Why not a wife first? A woman? Sensual and beautiful before being nurturing and soothing for children?

I never got the flame back for him. Maybe I was wrong, maybe I missed something. I do not think so at all anymore. Everything which is meant to be for me is drawn to me anyway, as the great @nataliethebeliever says on Instagram.

My mistake was to think I was not enough as a woman. My error was to think my value as a human being would be higher was I to be a mother.

A few years afterwards, it was so easy for the abuser to convince me that I would be a better person if I had children.

Today I have two amazing children and I don’t feel sorrow anymore about what happened.

However, I refuse to be a scruffy mother. I always wanted to be appreciated as a woman and still wish to experience this soon.

The crazy hectic life attached to my situation as a working mother raising her kids alone is trying to make me scruffy. The tiredness, the never-ending demands of the children…

Maybe this is why I was so touched when a neighbor gifted me clothes. I was a woman dressed in white clothes, in front of the big mirror of my bathroom. I sent photos to this woman. I was so grateful.

I know that by reclaiming my woman part, I can be a better mother as well to my children.




The lesson motherhood taught me #control – Motherhood and Femininity Series Ep. 2

The lesson motherhood taught me #control - Motherhood and Femininity Series Ep. 2

In one of the books I am going to review for you on this channel, the author explains that the best way to deal with teenagers is not trying to control them. It is counterproductive and disrespectful to them. More on that soon and the French book is called L’adolescence autrement.

In regard to children of all ages, mine taught me to let go of control from an early age. I could not try to follow a to-do list in order or plan things in a rigid way. Sometimes I feel motherhood is like a hair bun on our head that is swiftly removed with all the hair floating around our head in one second. Do you get the image?

Motherhood helped me to reconnect to my feminine side, which is similar to water. It is allowing, graceful and adaptable. Never rigid. Never trying to force one’s way or control things.