Our core human need is connection – advice for single mothers who feel #lonely

Need for connection

As I was traveling alone with the kids in a foreign country (Cabo Verde), I came face to face with a core human need: connection with other humans. Far from my usual environment, I was weak.

Each day, the children and I were going to the same spot on the beach. Indeed, after a few days, we eventually found the perfect safe spot, sheltered from the wind (Cabo Verde beaches are very windy).

One morning, a single mother and her son sat next to our spot. The conversation started naturally between us. She was british and deep in reflexion about the best way to reorganise her professional life. Hence, she wanted to be present for her son, by staying at home more often, while creating a career network for women. We met again the next days.

We are human beings. Our core need is connection. My friend, my sister, I am aware than we may not be able to meet our need for connection right in this very moment. I am writing this post, alone in my flat, raising my two children without any help and single for years now. However, when we desire, above everything else, to see the beauty of the world and of people all around us, we find it. Tonight, my daughter lost her train ticket. An unknown mother bought her one. I sent a text to my daughter which read: “The world is filled with extraordinary people. You are one extraordinary daughter so you naturally attract them to you.”

To the #unavailable #men I loved or how to overcome #heartbreak

To the #unavailable #men I loved or how to overcome #heartbreak - Claire Samuel

You were not available when I met you. I did not know it. Or maybe I felt it but I did not want to believe it because you were like angels. Actually you have been guardian angels in my life and still are today.

One of you helped me to get a master’s degree and boost my career. The other helped me to pursue my dream of sharing with the world my experience, how I overcame abuse, in a book. You wrote to me “There is a bright future ahead of you“. You made it happen for me. By your presence in my life, however short, you made me better and stronger.

I love you, thank you. I promise I will listen to my intuition from now on and refrain from falling in love with unavailable men. Love needs to be experienced. Enough with dreaming.

 

 

I love him, he was here all along, I changed and he changed

I love him, he was here all along, I changed and he changed

I met N. in 2012 when I was in the aftermath of abuse. I was recovering from it and he was the first non abusive man I was meeting. Sadly, I ended the relationship then. However, it was a good thing: I was following my integrity. Today I see him with new eyes. He changed and I changed. I give my love for him to the universe, not knowing the issue and letting go. I feel blessed to feel love for a man of such value.

Improvisation of yoga dance and piano music with a dear friend

I feel blessed to have connected to such a beautiful soul. While my dear friend was improvising on his piano, I was improvising on the yoga mat. We did not rehearse at all. I felt his music running through my veins. My heart was focusing on the warmness of the sound while my body was flowing on a wave of happiness. We even stopped playing/moving at the same time. This is pure grace.