What is the sexiest thing in a man?
When a man has the b**** to say the truth.
The latin root of courage means heart in French (coeur).
A fancy car? I couldn’t care less.
Loosing oneself in the name of #love?
Going to live at the other end of the world out of love? I almost did it twice in my life and I guess it would have made me very happy indeed.
However, may we always keep intact our values and what really matters in our life my friend my sister.
Love is wonderful but cannot justify everything.
Balance is key here, feeling good and safe, having our intuition at our side and not giving away all of our personal power to the other person in the name of love.
When the fear of loosing a man spoils everything and solution
I was so worried about loosing him. It ruined the relationship. It made me change my natural behavior. It turned my spontaneity and joy into anxiety.
Next time I am in love I will be open to the man I am with. I will say to him that I am so happy and that the relationship is so valuable to me that I am afraid of loosing him.
I don’t care if I seem weak. At least I will be honest.
As the French clairvoyant Franck Lopvet says, if a man cannot hear about our vulnerability, he does not deserve to be in our bed đ
Why do I fall in love with cold men? #romanticrelationships without #manipulation
I realize why I fell in love with cold men, who for instance would not hold my hand in the street.
Because cold men are not showering you with compliments, they are not trying to make you do things you do not want by making you believe stupid things (for eg, that they love you when it’s not the case at all) and they have no desire to manipulate you.
So some of us feel safer with cold men. You can love cold men ; they are great and honest. But your love life can change if you feel you need more passion and heat. We can trust ourselves to have discernment my friend my sister. We can receive love in the form of tender warmth and sincere compliments.
Esther Perel little questions to heal after the end of a romantic #relationship
In the video “Love, lust and commitment” I discovered five amazing little questions which are tips from Esther Perel.
Esther Perel is the queen of love, relationships and eroticism.
Her five little questions are a game changer when it comes to getting over an ex after the breakup.
You can totally ignore my personal answers my friend my sister. As always, the aim is to remind you that you are not alone if you grieve a romantic relationship.
So let’s mend our bruised heart with Esther Perel amazing questions below:
1. What do you take with you from this relationship?
First, he taught me that I need to treat myself more.
Second, I learned that I shall be more daring and talk about my feelings.
2. What are the things that make you smile about that relationship?
I smile when I remember how interesting it was to chat together. Furthermore, I cherish the feeling of being at ease with him and being able to say everything to him, all the truth and always.
3. What are the things you wish you had done differently?
I wish I had a conversation with him about relationships goals before getting involved.
4. What do you want your ex to take away with him from you?
I would like him to remember that some women are vulnerable and need protection. I definitely did.
5. How do you want to be remembered?
I want to be remembered as the woman who loved him so deeply and sincerely that I did not want to change one bit about him.
He was not perfect but nor am I so this was a good match đ
I really wish him the very best and I care about him very much. This is how I want to be remembered.
I will not make the same mistake again #loverelationships
I was in a weird mood, not totally depressed but not very enthusiastic either.
The result? I looked at my feet when I walked, head down all day long, trying to avoid life.
Twice it happened to me: I had around me a great man but I could not see him.
Because of this f****** sadness which sticks to my bones sometimes. Also because of work which tends to invade my life as a single mother, with already so much time for myself.
It pains me to say this but the truth is, I had no time available for the man I loved. I did not take the time to look at him, while he was there.
Of course, when I got it time became of the essence and I fell head over heels for him. But it was too late. The relationship becomes impossible.
One question remains: why waste all this time? Why did I not see him while he was there?
Now I am crying over my lost love but I decide to never again keep my head down when I walk.
I want my eyes wide open for the beauty surrounding me.
I want to move forward with confidence, knowing there is a great man around me who will love me, which I will be able to love, which will not leave for the other side of the world, nor me.
Why the romantic #relationship does not work or support and passions
I was so isolated. How could the relationship be light and playful?
We really need to surround ourselves with our friends while pursuing our passions my friend my sister.
It is a way of not being too needy towards our partner.
A man cannot be our friend, confident and shrink at the same time.
If our #exes were #angels or #alchemy or finding comfort somehow ;-)
I am thinking about my exes, the men I loved, not the abusers of course.
I am grateful for my exes to have made me who I am today. They have been catalysts in my life, they made me grow and evolve.
My love for them does not mean that I talk to them nor see them.
I owe them so much. This beautiful vibe which is gratitude is enough to carry on living without trying to mix what belongs to the past to my present.
Technically I have three exes and two men I loved from afar without ever getting involved with them. Five loves. Always super short relationships, except one which lasted 13 years, on and off therefore quite short actually. I am confessing all of this to you so you feel less alone if this is the case for you as well my friend my sister.
I have never experienced a true relationship with a man and I never lived with someone else (except two violent persons).
Sometimes I feel like writing the name of the men I loved on tiny pieces of paper and place them on my desk. I see them as guardian angels now.
If I am honest with myself, they left me because they were not really available, physically or emotionally. It was not a lack of love.
So I choose to put aside my wounded ego and focus on love instead.
My exes protect me. It could be wishful thinking, but at the same time the world is full of very subtle and invisible yet very real things.
When I love it is for ever my friend my sister. I want to thank my exes while letting my heart completely available for an available and free man who will truly want to be with me.
My mistake in avoiding #seduction at all costs #authentic
I wanted to be as authentic as possible.
I did not want to use the disguise of seduction.
Because he loved me at my worst (physically), I was ready to give him my best and my all. As if the first period was like a test.
I never had the opportunity to give him my best side nor to be playfully seducing.
I do not know if this is the reason he left me but I feel it may have played a part.
Why do I need to #belong?
I feel I have had this urge to belong since I am a child.
I dreamt of getting married one day just for the sake of belonging to the man I love.
However, something is bothering me here. If I am honest with myself, belonging also means that I want him to belong to me?
This is a no-no, a man is not an object and will never belong to me, however faithful and committed he is.
Also, I discovered that I was not the only one to have such expectations.
I loved hearing Elizabeth Gilbert with Chase Jarvis (“Elizabeth Gilbert: The Art of Being Yourself“) about writing all the crazy love sentences we wish someone would say to us, while knowing this is too much to ask from any human being.
It kind of takes the pressure away from an actual partner. No one can meet all my needs ever as Marisa Peer would say.
Lastly, I believe in equality in a relationship. My longing for belonging stops when a man treats me like his property.
Do you want to belong my friend my sister or are you already at peace with this feeling?
