Togetherness Archives - Claire Samuel

Souvenir of a past love or what remains after a relationship has ended is strength and hope

The souvenir of the relationship that abruptly ended and left me so very sad is now positive.

I kept in my heart a souvenir of love, like a new strength I have.

Honestly my friend my sister, I never thought I could say such a thing in a relaxed way one day!

I guess I have now overcome the post-breakup sadness and the anger.

When his image pops into my mind, or rather the feeling of him, all I want to do now is to take exquisite care of myself as a way of honoring him and the good times we shared.

What remains is my love for him, my love for me and the possibility of a new love story with a great man.
More about relationships, the toxic ones and the magnificent ones in my book The Knot in the Spiral my friend my sister.

Reality is perceived differently so he does not have to understand me

Reality is not perceived the same way by all of us of course.In the 14th century, philosophers even thought than reality was only the idea that I create in my mind about something, but not the thing itself.

Therefore, as Jean Duns Scot explained, there is reality on one side and the thing on the other side.

All of this leads me to romantic relationships. I want to stop feeling hurt by the fact that this man did not see reality the same way I did. I do not even require him to view things the way I do because we are two persons anyway. It frees me. I don’t want to have any expectations in love, although I have standards. Consequently, if we do not see things the same way and cannot live happily within our respective realities together, it is better to part ways.

I am very happy to share thoughts about love with you my friend my sister. However it has not always been the case. I spent years in abusive relationships which lead nowhere. I share my story in the book The Knot in the Spiral so you can avoid the mistakes I made. Lots of love, Claire