Sometimes I wonder if I am going to stay single for the rest of my life. It makes me feel dizzy. I remember the main female character in the book The signature of all things by Elizabeth Gilbert. During the whole story, she never has any romantic relationship. She actually marry then divorced an unavailable man who does not love her. Sometimes the idea of staying single makes me laugh because I guess I will be able to eat all the garlic and onions possible!
Being in a relationship can be challenging sometimes, but it is a way of growing.
I am in recovery. I used to be such a workaholic. Today I make an effort to enjoy life, just do that, enjoy. I don’t need a man to enjoy life. I need to enjoy life now, so that when I welcome a man into my life it is even better.
Self love seems to be everywhere in the self help movement. I love how Sherry Argov puts it very simply for us: “If he can’t treat himself well, he’ll never treat you well“. I reviewed her great book here.
It rings so true to me but it is recent knowledge. I was not able to grasp this beforehand. I was desperately attracted to men with addictions. I wanted to help them so much. Thanks to Teal Swan’s teachings, I now understand that I deeply wanted to be good by sacrificing my well being, my dignity and my whole person to a man. Deep down, I needed to appear like a person of good virtue because I thought love was conditional.
Dear amazing Man I am going to be in love with soon,
I love you with all my heart, all my body and all my soul.
Your intelligence and the way you make me laugh are so exciting.
It is an honor to be in your presence.
Touching your skin is a sacred act.
Spending time with you is more precious than gold.
Words are not enough to describe how much I love you, I cherish you, I admire you and I respect you.
God bless You.
“Claire,
You are the most sensational, happy and brilliant person I got the chance to meet.
I know it is not easy to always stay that positive, but know that this good energy shines from you and inspires all of us.
Thank you for this inspiration, thank you for your authenticity.
Keep shining, you have a bright future ahead of you.
All the best dear,
Tom”
This message has been written by an angel I got the chance to work with for a few months. Then, he went back to Lebanon. I loved him, but his heart was still bleeding from a recent heartbreak so he was unavailable.
However, how can I be sad when such angelic words were written to me? How could I not share with the world and help my sisters out there?
He was the first person I told about the rape. I have a whole chapter about him in my book.
In the second part of the French interview, Chantal Revault d’Allones and I talk about how we are already past the domination and competition world. We already entered the area of cooperation and collaboration between human beings, women and men together. We are truly interdependent. If you read French, enjoy “Patriarcat : fin de partie“.
