I love you because you are smart and make me feel safe.
I don’t need you to be or do anything. I don’t even need you to love me back.
I am responsible for my happiness. If the situation does not suit me, I am going to leave.
Love is absolute respect for the other person. It is not about taking from but honoring a man and the whole person he is, never taking him for granted, never saying I need you.
Do you know the great writer and relationship counselor Jacques Salomé? I love his work:
I don’t know his face yet but I can already feel the feeling of being held into his arms, safe and loved. I can feel the warmth, the tenderness and the protection.
I am grateful for the man who is going to share my life in the future. And that makes me happy.
Because healthy sexuality is both sacred to me and as important as quality food, I choose today to tackle the issue of maintaining physical passion while respecting our partner’s private space. Sex is absolutely sacred (more on that in a future video) and one of the most beautiful things in life.
I do believe in the absolute respect of the man I love. Of course it is possible to live under the same roof and keep a personal space, sometimes a room.
I like to link this to the mystery which should always remain in a long-term relationship. In that endeavor, I am supported by:
- the great videos of Tom and Lisa Bilyeu (it was fascinating to watch how they changed their mind about sleeping in separate bedrooms to keep things hot),
- Bridget Nielsen who underlines the importance of respecting the other person’s space in her video “5 Keys That Build A Healthy Romantic Relationship“,
- the French author Jacques Salomé who is an expert on healthy sexuality and love and
- Markus and Cara, who prove that physical desire goes exquisitely well with infinite tenderness when the two partners are sincere.
I always thought I could not have a relationship with a man unless he read my book first (The Knot in the Spiral).
In my book, I confess experiences that are not very flattering, even shameful.
Nonetheless, I am so glad I shared my story in a book because it prevents me from even trying to seduce a man by pretending to be someone else out of fear of not being good enough.
Today my dream is to live with a man without the fear of being judged. This is my definition of safety.
Do you want a man who provide for you notably financially? Dare it! Say it!
Personally I love working and earning money, but I love the feeling of being safe. So I am saying it aloud to attract what I crave the most.
Some men love to take care of a woman financially and some women love to cook for the man they love for instance (like me!).
The important thing is to be honest about what we want. That way we can attract someone who is truly happy to do that for us.