Do you remember Davina’s song “After the rain comes the sunshine again…“?
Actually, anger is a more elevated state than sadness. Then joy can enter the picture.
Recently, Teal Swan whom I adore released an ecourse to help victims of sexual abuse.
In a short extract on her Instagram, she shared how anger was a necessary step to overcome trauma. Not being able to express anger makes it impossible to heal. For a long time, I was unable to be angry. I was sad and overcome by grief.
Being angry, without hurting myself nor others, is actually what helped me to feel at ease with what happened. We never forget but we can live despite the past circumstances. We can live without defining ourselves by our past. I define myself with the choices I make today, with how I choose to show up in the world, how I talk to people and relate to the people I love. This is what matters and what I focus on.