At 20 years old, I did not even sit for the exams I had been preparing for two years. I was terrified of failing. Fifteen years afterwards, I went back to university, this time as single mother of two kids. I was different, not because of my new family status, but because I took the decision to show up this time. I sat for the exams, even without having studied 100% of what I was supposed to study. As I share in my book The knot in the spiral, the result surpassed my wildest dreams.