Life has got humor. Life makes us meet people when we least expect it. I had a conversation with a snow-white man, a short, intense, unique and unexpected chat. As I say in my book, I have so much admiration for men, including if they are younger than me. It was the only point where I was in disagreement with him. I met 25-year-old men who were so intelligent and taught me lots about life and destiny.
I feel I was lied to. I desperately tried to become a pretty doll surrounded by material possessions, only to end in poverty and abused. Today, I follow my own path. I love minimalism and sharing with women to help them rebuild their lives.
This photo was taken by my dear friend, while I was busy writing letters to submit several applications to law masters degree courses. I was thirty-five years old, having gone back to university to finish what I started more than ten years ago.
Thus, at twenty years old, I suddenly quit university during my second year of law. Convinced that I was unworthy and having no self-confidence whatsoever, I became a personal assistant instead.
My friend, my sister, sometimes it is worth to wait five minutes more before quitting. Perseverance can modify our life path for the better. The price to pay is temporary discomfort.
My friend, my sister, may we start by cultivating our inner joy and happiness. However dark and sad our current circumstances may appear, may we always be on the look out for all the little happiness sparks. Beauty and grace will then, somehow, come into our lives.
My friend, my sister, are you going back to university? are you determined to improve your current situation by going deep on personal development, rather than movies or fiction novels (even temporarily)? are you hungry for success, for productivity, for climbing higher in your life?
If you rebuild your life after trauma/abuse, you need to listen to audio books or online courses.
However, exercising is essential to enjoy a good functioning brain. The solution is simple: listen what you have to listen to become the best version of yourself (distance courses/classes, motivating audio books and podcasts), while you are exercising, whether at home, at the gym or outside if you go for a run (use your headphones on your mobile). Personally, I do yoga at home, in front of youtube videos, which I put on mute. While I am exercising on the mat, I listen to other videos, about motivation, being a writer and developping a youtube channel. I have been using this productivity secret for many years now, it helped me tremendously and, at the end of the day, I am proud of myself.
Let go of age. Whatever our age, it doesn’t matter anymore. I learn from my children every day. I improved my life thanks to boys and girls of twenty-three years old when I was thirty-five. Today, the world belongs to flexible and open-minded people. I learn so much listening to young entrepreneurs, while admiring the wisdom of senior citizens. The era of separating people according to their age is over. It made place for a hunger to learn and equality, both between sexes and ages.
As I was traveling alone with the kids in a foreign country (Cabo Verde), I came face to face with a core human need: connection with other humans. Far from my usual environment, I was weak.
Each day, the children and I were going to the same spot on the beach. Indeed, after a few days, we eventually found the perfect safe spot, sheltered from the wind (Cabo Verde beaches are very windy).
One morning, a single mother and her son sat next to our spot. The conversation started naturally between us. She was british and deep in reflexion about the best way to reorganise her professional life. Hence, she wanted to be present for her son, by staying at home more often, while creating a career network for women. We met again the next days.
We are human beings. Our core need is connection. My friend, my sister, I am aware than we may not be able to meet our need for connection right in this very moment. I am writing this post, alone in my flat, raising my two children without any help and single for years now. However, when we desire, above everything else, to see the beauty of the world and of people all around us, we find it. Tonight, my daughter lost her train ticket. An unknown mother bought her one. I sent a text to my daughter which read: “The world is filled with extraordinary people. You are one extraordinary daughter so you naturally attract them to you.”