I read The Four Agreements one year after having escaped a dangerous and toxic relationship and one year prior going back to college to become a lawyer. This book literally changed my life. The four core life principles are:
- May we be impeccable with our word: I teach my children that their mouth shall be clean both ways. As much as we strive to feed ourselves the most nourishing food, we must strive to talk in a respectful way, without bad language, making sure we do not hurt the feelings of others with the words we speak,
- May we do not take anything personally: other people criticism and judgement of ourselves has in fact nothing to do with us, we are their mirror so how they behave towards us only means so much as regard to them, their mindset and their values,
- May we do not make assumptions: again, judgement is useless because if only we could take a bird’s-eye view, we could see all the missing data on a given situation, we cannot see the full picture so may we keep an open mind and an open heart while walking bravely on the path, even if they are some circumstances which we cannot understand fully right now, and
- May we always do our best: may be honestly assess if we have given our all to something, if the answer is yes, we are enough, and we can be proud of ourselves sister.