Life is not divided between black and white. Each manipulator needs a victim because they actually embody a similar vibe. Choosing the wrong path is one thing. However, the power to choose again is one of the best prerogatives of human beings. Our intrinsic value cannot ever be diminished. It belongs to all of us humans. The biggest obstacle is the one which our own mind imposes on us.
Lots of reflexion for a common issue: a very handsome young man taking advantage of a tourist woman, robbing her of her goods by getting access to her heart first.
In this video, I mention a great book called The belly of the Atlantic by Fatou Diome.
“Do not listen to yourself” and “What you say did not happen, it is not true.” used to tell me the manipulator. My friend, my sister, may we feel and express our emotions. Thank you Teal Swan for helping me to see more clearly in me.
Falling into the lion’s den is excruciatingly painful. It is like walking into the valley of death. However, this is how I learned my lesson and grew as a woman. It was so painful that I know, deep down, that I will never get caught into the trap of abuse and manipulation ever again.
When the negotiation techniques classes I attended at law school help me to identify manipulation. Thus, “hard” negotiation is very similar to a manipulator’s behavior. On the opposite, reasonable negotiation takes into account the interests of all the parties, to reach a win-win agreement. May we learn how to recognize manipulation and surround ourselves with people who, while pursuing their interests, will take ours into consideration.
A gift can mean two very different things. Receiving gracefully is one thing and protecting our boundaries is another.