She was forty and owned as many pairs of designer shoes. However, she was not fulfilled by her life. I was working in a law firm as junior lawyer and she was a senior one. She confided in me that she hated this job, which rendered her aggressive and brutal. Indeed, it was the impression she gave me when I worked with her. However, she meant so much more to me. When I sat for interviews before I was recruited, she was so warm-hearted. She had been touched by my situation, a single mother of two who went back to university to get a lawyer’s degree.
A few days before I quit this law firm, I entered her office, which she shared with a trainee, and admired the beautiful photographs on the wall. I inquired about these and she replied that they were photos she took herself. They were really stunning.
A few days afterwards, we were chatting about the profession and she affirmed: “Being a finance lawyer is the only thing I can do, I’m no good at anything else“.
When she left to another law firm, I wrote her a note saying: “You are far more powerful than you think you are“.
Thank you dear L. for reaching out to me with your question. I understand you are 25 years old and back to college. You feel overwhelmed and discouraged. I am here to help and share my experience. I went back to college at 33 years old. Like you, I had to let go of my ex, who stayed in my mind for so long. Like you, I felt tired and discouraged. I have three excellent tips for you in this video. Lots of love, Claire
My friend, my sister, do you have resolutions, choices or positive habits? Stick to them! I am sending you strength and courage. Stick to it and you will be rewarded.
Give it your all, in all you do, you never know what blessings could come your way. I never imagined that one day I could go to Cabo Verde and do a headstand in the sand, as on the photo above. May we always do our best and reap the blessings that we cannot see today but which are coming our way.
A few years after I escaped from violence and abuse, I stumbled across the amazing work and legacy of Oprah Winfrey. I watched many youtube videos about her work and various speeches. I love her so much. I also listened closely to the message carried by the people she chose to interview. Moreover, there is one word that stands out in Oprah’s generous body of work and this is “no”. Learning how to say “no” to people, even family, is the most important thing to say “yes” to ourselves.
I wrote on a little card, on both sides, several positive affirmations which helped me through many years of recovering from abuse. Whenever I feel sad and lonely, I read them again. The card is always on my desk or on the wall, even through various flats. This card has been the witness of my tears, my hopes and my hard work.
We are never alone anyway. There is a higher power. Besides, we are more powerful than we thing we are. This card was on my side when I was studying for the bar exam. This card is still with me today, as I embark on this entrepreneurial venture. May it inspire you and bring you comfort too. This is what it reads:
- Always assume the best
- I love you, sorry, than you.
- It happened for me.
- The sky is the limit.
- You are a ray of sunshine.
- Beautiful surprises of life.
- To be one with life.
- Whatch what happens.
- I am more powerful than I imagine.
- Prepare and it will come.
- Abundance and confidence.
- Accept and act.
- I deserve great things and more.
- I love my beautiful life.
- Only good things are coming now.
- I am safe.
- I am loved.
- I am a strong and beautiful woman capable of anything.
- The great man is already mine.
- I am willing to receive.
- I am enough.
- Dear God, please make me into someone wonderful.